After a really traumatic year of treatment and surgeries, my husband (we got married less than 3 weeks ago) had his first 3 month monitoring scan after being signed off, at the beginning of January.
We haven't heard anything since but today he received a text message for an MRI scan.
We stupidly allowed ourselves to be hopeful for not hearing anything because they really couldn't mess up the communication again!!
Well it seems they have and I now have a very distraught husband.
For context, we were in this position back in nov 22. The same thing happened. He was signed off after a big liver op and at his 3 month monitoring scan we didn't hear anything for 6 weeks and then he randomly got a call for a scan. After chasing MacMillan, it transpired that the cancer had returned and it was so so delayed that it quickly became inoperable and he spent all of last year back in treatment and having ops and procedures. At the time everyone was so apologetic about the lack of communication and how he found out, we were convinced that the same thing could not happen again. But unfortunately it has. He was watching a football match with a friend this afternoon when he got the text message for another scan, so he bottled it up and hit the drink. I only found out when he got home and he is so upset.
After 4 years of fighting, he is talking about stopping treatment and not being able to go through anymore. I am sure when he sobers up and actually gets the information about what is going on he will change his mind but I can't believe we are here again with the really piss poor communication. I am so angry. I know MacMillan, and everyone who has supported DH through this journey has been great but how can they get the communication so wrong twice! And at the exact same time. Now we have to wait until Monday to find out why they have booked an MRI scan in and if it's because the cancer has regrown. Until then, there is no convincing DH that there may be another reason, not after last time.
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Life-limiting illness
It's happening again
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bookwormcrazy · 27/01/2024 19:48
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Teasmaidavale · 28/01/2024 08:48
I’m so sorry this has happened again, it’s really outrageous to just receive a text as the first contact! And on a weekend too when you can’t contact anyone until Monday. We’re pals involved last time? I’m really sorry you are both going through this.
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