Is this an appropriate gift for friend with pancreatic cancer?

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I found out today that a friend has pancreatic cancer. I believe she’s at stage 3 (too late for surgery, undergoing chemo atm). I’m heartbroken as she is the loveliest woman. She is well cared for by her DH and adult children and has lots of support in place. I feel helpless as there’s nothing I can do for her.

I was thinking of sending her a little gift basket with things she can enjoy: cashmere bed socks, pillow spray, etc. Is this appropriate? And what else can I include? Maybe a nice blanket? She is very poorly from the chemo and has no appetite, so no food gifts.

I believe your heart tells you what to buy already for your friend. The best Gift will be your presence, silent, no advises, just sitting and listening will be the Best Gift of Support.

@ErtisunJewellery thank you 💐

Sounds like a very nice, thoughtful idea to me. The blanket, socks, anything cosy will be appreciated I'm sure. I would think it a very appropriate gift.
Maybe some flowers if she's a flower person? (But the kind that arrives in water so she doesn't have to do anything with them.)
If you know her well enough, go and see her, give her a hug, spend a bit of time with her, reminisce, have a laugh together if you can. Bring her a bottle of wine in case she feels upto it. Offer to take her for a cup of tea if she can face it. Treat her like the friend she is, not just a sick lady- if you know what I mean.
If you're more inclined to send a gift, maybe include a nice card- offer practical help, lifts to appointments, do the food shop etc. The family will appreciate this, even if they never need to take you up on it. They will remember who offered their help.
Not an easy thing to see your friend go through.
I'm sure whatever you decide to send will be lovely.

@snowlady4 thank you, I’ve ordered a nice throw, cashmere socks, silk pillowcase and queasy drops. I will go and deliver to her house this week (I will let her know ahead) and take it from there - but with no expectation of spending any time or even going in if she’s not up for it.

My friend got relief from cbd drops, might be worth considering

My MIL enjoyed really effective hand cream and blistex lip drench. And she used to use wheat bags.

Also she used to ring me to talk about what I was knitting for distraction - being available for gentle small talk.

Also sheep skin rug for sitting on.

She also had a lovely friend who dropped in regularly for short periods to chat about crosswords - it was a thing they both liked to do.