Oesophageal cancer ?

[ShellySarah]

My mum has it. Stage 4 as already spread.

They aren't offering chemo or radiotherapy as there's no point at her age, she's late 70s and it spread a lot.

She isn't in pain. What can I expect as the end nears?

She's in denial.

Thanks

She needs care at home from social services then, I got railroaded into leaving my professional job to look after dh and now I have a 10m gap on my resume, no income, a mortgage & usual bills etc. It's very stressful.

A close relative of mine died of it. It was very quick, only a few weeks from diagnosis. Unlike PP, he was in pain. Morphine dose gradually increased until he was out of it for the last couple of days.

He wouldn't consider a hospice and was discharged from hospital with a home care package, district nurse visits and a referral to McMillan, who promised the earth and delivered nothing.

If I'd known how quick it would be, I would have taken more time off work to spend with him, but I'd been led to believe he might have months. Like you, I couldn't really take a lengthy career break at the time.

If your mum is already bed-bound and not eating, it might not be long. Just do what you can and be kind to yourself over what you can't do.

If your mum is already bed-bound and not eating, it might not be long.

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Hi OP

I don't know if your mum is still around or if you were able to contact MacMillan, but here is a link to their website which has plenty of information and resources and a phone number for them. Take care

Macmillan Cancer Support | The UK's leading cancer care charity