Hi OP, I’m sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis.
I was diagnosed with stage 3 inoperable pancreatic cancer in November last year (after many, many trips to the GP where I was repeatedly fobbed off but that’s another story). I was 53.
I was told we had a very small window before progressing to St 4. I was offered 6 sessions of Folfirinox chemo in the hope of shrinking the tumour enough to make it operable, although my oncologist said it was very rare that this worked. I completed the chemo and completely changed my diet (very low fat, low carb, no dairy, no upf, no sugar and eat lots of cancer “fighting” foods). The scan following chemo showed the tumour had shrunk enough for me to undergo the whipple. I was so relieved that this was now an option.
I finished chemo in Feb and had the whipple in March. There is no mistaking it is a massive operation which takes some getting over. I am still recuperating. I know how your dad and you must feel about the risks and side effects. My worst side effect has been diarrhoea which I’ve suffered with every day since March. It has made me quite weak as I’ve lost 4 stone and I’m not as active as I would like to be. I’ve not suffered with any leaks, infections or anything and the actual incision has been no trouble at all. I was in ICU for 5 days and post-surgical ward for another 7 days. I’m now on another 12 weeks of mop up chemo.
At my follow up appointment in April my surgeon told me they had removed all of the tumour with clear margins and they’d taken 47 lymph nodes (a lot!) which were all clear. He said if he’d been told this would be my outcome he would never have believed it.
So, I would say to your dad go for it. It is life saving but life changing surgery without a doubt but in all honesty, what is the alternative?
How old is your dad and is he fairly fit and well apart from the cancer? Have they staged it? If he does decide to have the op I would say to try and get as fit as possible beforehand, and to eat plenty to limit the weight loss (appreciate this might be difficult for him though). Where would he have the surgery?
He is very lucky (if you can call it that) to have been offered the op, as sadly many are diagnosed far too late for this to be an option. He has a chance, and although this has been the hardest fight of my life, that is exactly what I was doing, fighting for my life.
Apologies if I’ve gone on a bit about myself but I know it is so important to read of real life experiences. I second a previous poster’s recommendation to join Uk Whipple Warriors on FB, I think there is another page for carers/family too which my daughters joined. The nurses at Pancreatic Cancer UK are also brilliant and there are many people’s stories on that website too.
Good luck to you both, I’m fairly new on here and not that tech savvy but would be more than happy to share more about my experience if you would like to know more.