It could be DM's last Xmas- what do I get her?

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Just that really.. experiences are tricky as not sure how she'll be / when having treatment. 'Stuff' seems irrelevant.. I'm too exhausted & devastated to think about what to get her myself. Please help!

Put a hamper together with some favourite food stuffs?

TBH - it was my Dad’s last Xmas in 2021 and I bought him a lovely top. No, he didn’t wear it often, but he did wear it and that’s what counted. He liked it on the day and it felt like a ‘normal’ present.

Oh OP, I’m so sorry.

Im in the same boat, I’m afraid. My Dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, starts treatment next week. I keep being told we should make memories, but that’s not possible as he is in so much pain he struggles to even leave the house.

For Christmas I’ve got my dad an item of clothing he’d asked for, seems silly as he’s been living in pj’s but there’s always hope that one day he’ll get to wear it. My other family members are doing the same, buying things that they would’ve done on any normal Christmas.

A really lovely throw/blanket? Useful now it's cold and maybe later on too.

Sorry OP

@Itsvalentino - Seems like we had exactly the same idea xx

Hope you have a lovely Xmas xx

I'm in the same situation unfortunately, if we make it through this one even. I have bought some new pyjamas, a new throw and some jars of mini biscuits (one of the few things she still enjoys eating).

I didn’t know last Christmas would be my dads….
This year, I’m well aware it could be my mums. She’s 90 and struggling with dementia in a care home.
I’ve bought her a lovely matching nighty and dressing gown, a photo album of all the family member, a box of florentines and a bottle of proshecco (as she calls it). X

My son lost his dad in June- We knew on his birthday (March) that it was going to be his last one.
We got him some pj bottoms, a little birthday cake, a balloon and bought him a star.
Brings a lot of comfort to my son who looks up at the sky at night to see "daddys star"
Its really really shit thinking about stuff like this.
Sending hugs x

Make a video with clips of all the people she cares about wishing her a Merry Christmas (bonus if they say what they admore about her)

What a lovely idea. If I'm ever in that position I would love something like that.

So sorry to hear about everyone's relatives

I’m in exactly the same situation and have decided on “normal” presents, so things I would get her before, regardless if they get use or or not.
The reason for this is I don’t want to remind myself or her of the health situation by giving blankets, pyjamas and stuff like that which at the moment just make me think of death bed.
I think it will depend on the individual and the specific situation, there isn’t a wrong and a right.