DF is having ongoing treatment for cancer and lives alone but not far from me. Being the one who's self employed means I've taken on the lion's share of any caring that's required - it has been full on but now I just go over most days, cook several meals a week for him, and go to weekly appointments.
His MH isn't great, it's been going on for nearly a year, he's sick of feeling crap and just doesn't have much motivation to help himself (he would benefit from going for a walk daily to build his strength for example but can't be bothered unless I actually go with him). He's clearly depressed but refuses to mention it to the doctor, I've suggested counselling but he thinks that's pointless as well.
The problem is, being around him every day is making me depressed. I feel like my whole life revolves around him and I'm trying to help him but not really achieving much. I make sure I take time to do things I like when I'm not visiting him but it's really hard to switch off from it and feels never ending.
Has anyone been in this situation and how did you cope?