I'm sorry I'm really struggling today and need to get it out somewhere.
One of my parents was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage 4 cancer earlier this year and since the diagnosis it has already spread rapidly and they have gone down hill so quickly.
Over the weekend it's hit me how much I love them and don't want them to die. I don't know how to come to terms with the fact they are going to die sooner than we had hoped (we were hoping for at least 3-5years but it's going to be less than a year and the way it's going I'd say months at most).
I have so many feelings I don't know how to process or deal with. Knowing they won't see their 60th birthday, knowing we haven't had enough time since the diagnosis to make the most of the time they have, knowing the treatment isn't working, wishing things were different or that the treatment would work to buy us more time. Seeing how much they have changed from the person they were.
I haven't had to deal with a close loved ones death before so it's all new to me. I don't know how to get through this.
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Life-limiting illness
How do you come to terms with knowing your going to lose someone you love?
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Notready0 · 15/11/2021 01:38
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