Dad died from covid and my mum has terminal cancer

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Last year my mum got diagnosed with breast cancer after missing her screening test because of covid. Later on we found out it was also in her lungs and terminal. My dad then died from covid in January 😔 since then I had my first child and feel so gutted that my dad never got to meet her. Now my mums cancer has spread to her brain which we have now been told she only has weeks left. We are waiting for a bed to come up I the hospice as we have tried so hard to care for her but now it's impossible. Life is so unfair and cruel, now my little girl will loose both her grandparents 😪😪

I'm going to lose both my parents in less then one year, my dad was 65 and my mum it's 65 next month. Absolutely heartbroken

I am really struggling this is the first time I've ever expressed my feelings

No advice or anything helpful to say but just wanted to pass on my sympathy - what a shit and unfair situation

I’m so sorry for everything that is happening. I had a similar situation with both my parents passing away within 3 months of each other, both 65 years old. My only advice is to utilise the grief councillors and lean into help from family and friends. At times like this having a strong support network is an amazing help. I also did a scrapbook with my daughter of her grandparents with little stories of things we did growing up, we like to read it together and have a bit of a giggle.

Thank you, it just feels nice to talk about the pain , really struggle to let me feelings flow

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I'm do sorry to read this. I've lost both my parents in the last couple of years too. My mum had terminal cancer as well. I found I coped by being busy and doing everything I could think of to help my mum while she was alive. She wasn't afraid to speak about her wishes for when she passed away and her funeral so I wrote everything down and knew we had done all that she wanted when the time came. It's all feels so unfair and unjust. Covid has robbed us all of so much. Wishing you strength for the future.

It is indeed a shit situation and I’m always happy to be a listening ear for vents on this.

My DF and DM both passed away from covid at the start of the year and DMIL passed away 3 months later from cancer - so I can definitely sympathise with how difficult this period is. That much loss in a short period, as well as grief, it forces so many changes to your life.

Couldn't even say bye to My dad, I just feel ifncancer screenings were pushed back they might of caught the cancer before it spread to her lungs.

Thank you for your lovely comments

It's so hard to come to terms with not getting to say goodbye. It probably won't feel 'real' for quite a while. I found it very difficult to believe my Dad was actually gone. You just feel numb a lot of the time too. x

I’m really sorry 💐

I am so so sorry no one is ever prepared to lose their parents regardless their age, but to lose them just when you are becoming a parent yourself is expecially cruel.

I hope you have a good support network to lean on. It's going to get easier with time.

I'm so sorry for everything. Losing a parent is bad enough but having 'what ifs' just takes it to another level. My dad died because of nhs neglect so I do understand the anger that accompanies your grief. Ultimately, though, that anger is so self-destructive and stops you dealing with the grief. It does get easier but prepared for it taking a long time. My dad died 6 years ago and although I'm more accepting of it, I still miss him every day. I talk about him regularly and laugh about little things and it makes me feel closer to him. Maybe that would be the same for your little girl.

I'm so sorry, what a dreadful time for you
It was my Dads funeral today and my mum looked so frail it scared me.

I’m so sorry. My dad died in January from covid and mum died from terminal cancer two weeks later,

It is so tough and I’m still struggling now. But I got through it. Have you got a good support network? That helped me immensely. Huge hugs

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry

I've got lots of people around me but I really struggle to express my feelings, and it's getting out of control now 😔

I'm so sorry for the people you have lost , this world is so cruel

My mum passed Sunday:(

I’m so sorry, OP. People will be here to help. Write here.

I am so sorry to hear about your mum's passing. Are you getting support from the hospice?

I'm so very sorry. There aren't really words to help but know that so many of us understand and empathise with what you're going through. If you need to talk, we are always here.

So so sorry , cancer is so shit and unfair xx

Couldn't read the thread and not reply.

I'm really sorry for both of your losses OP ☹️ it's such a horrible thing to have to go through, losing your parents, especially when there are children in the mix. I had my first child in 2017 and both my father and father in law suddenly died within three weeks of each other when my baby was only 9 weeks old. She lost both of her granddad's within three weeks.

It's absolutely gutting and the pain can be overwhelming. I felt like the future had been snatched away from me and there were so many things that were left to be done.

You're not alone OP. If you need to talk, let it out.

I'm sorry for your loss.