Throat cancer

[ForeverSinging]

I have a parent diagnosed with this and could just do with someone to talk to, to know what to expect.

I lost my dad last year so it's just my mum now. She's decided not to have any treatment, palliative or otherwise. Because of this I have no way of knowing what will happen and I'm finding that a struggle. Every new thing has me worried because I don't know if it's the cancer progressing or something else.

Because there's no tests or treatment happening there's no professionals to ask. Because of covid she hasn't seen anybody recently and while I've tried to look things up online it mainly talks about treatment side effects and survival rates after surgery, none of which applies here.

I know it's not something that's easy to talk about but if anyone is willing I'd really appreciate it. Thank you.

I'm sorry I have no experience with throat cancer but I'm so sorry you're going through this. My dad died of IPF and none of us ever really knew what to expect and so I fully sympathise with how hard that is.

Is it possible to talk to her or your GP, hypothetically (i.e. not about her specifically but about the disease in general) to get some idea of what comes next.

Did your dad die suddenly or of an illness? Im wondering if you've been through end of life care at all before? I suspect at a certain point the illness becomes less relevant and the last struggle gets very similar.

If you haven't been through that before I am happy to explain how it went with dad, but shan't write a big post in case you already experienced it with your dad as I would imagine in the time span the feelings are all very raw.

Do you have any idea at all of how long left she has?

I am so sorry you are going through this, even more so after losing your dad so recently. Please be kind to yourself and do whatever helps you get through.

Thank you for replying. My dad died of cancer too, a different type, but it was very quick from diagnosis to passing, literally weeks so it was a different experience. And a massive shock.

A doctor told her possibly 18 months a few months ago but that was based on the symptoms she described over the phone, it was a total guess because he'd never even met her.

She's asked nurses what to expect but they just talk in riddles and don't give a real answer.

Sorry you are going through this..it must be awful :(
I have no experience of throat cancer. My dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer a month ago, they are only offering laser treatment to open the passageway to his stomach so he can swallow a bit. No other treatment is available. From my perspective, we are now just waiting for signs the cancer is spreading. I guess then we will liaise with GP and the hospital for pain relief. Its just a brutal situation. Are you able to speak to her GP to get a gist? Is she trying to protect you? Sorry for any assumptions made.
Lots of love x

Hello, my Dad has recently been diagnosed with throat cancer. My Dad is choosing to fight it as it’s early stages and treatable with chemo and surgery.

I’m sorry you lost your Dad 💐

@foreversinging how is your mum..how are you xx