Kidney cancer

[rainbowninja]

I recently found out my mum has kidney cancer. I'm so scared for her. She lost a sister to cancer but I still didn't see this coming. I was initially just shocked but now I'm just thinking the worst and I don't know how to face it. Just that really.

Sorry, don't mean to be a mood hoover 😬 the prognosis is actually reasonable. She has to have her kidney removed though.

Anyone with any wise words or just a hand hold?

No wise words but will hold your hand x

Thank you @notapizzaeater she's never had great health but she is only 62. I hope you're well x

She’s still young so hopefully recovery so won’t be too bad. Has she had a pet scan ?

People live healthy lives with one kidney

My dad has just had the same diagnosis @rainbowninja so I'm in a similar boat. Does your mum know when her surgery will be? My DF is looking at a partial nephrectomy, probably before Christmas.

My cousin had kidney cancer and had to have a kidney removed . She was told that because the cancer was contained to one kidney she had a good chance of recovery and 7 years later is fine with 1 kidney.
Hoping that your DM recovers .

Thanks @notapizzaeater I'm not sure about that type of scan. I'll ask her, focussing on the process might help distract from the fear over the outcome x

I know someone who has this last year and has recovered amazingly. It seems to have excellent results as they can remove the kidney but the remaining kidney will function well afterwards.

62 is young so she has age on her side but I know its scary. Stay positive and take each appointment one step at the time.

@FraterculaArctica sorry to hear that but thanks for sharing. How old is your Dad if you don't mind me asking?

My mums op will be in 2-3 weeks time, she's trying not to show it but she's pretty freaked out by it

Thanks @Techway I'm an anxiety sufferer so my anxiety has gone through the roof at this news but you're so right, just one step at a time

Thanks @Oldbutstillgotit each positive story is so good to hear, my aunt had breast cancer so that was different but she died about 3 years after her diagnosis at the same age as my mum is now so I think we are all extra worried for her because of that

My dad had this 5 years ago and had a kidney removed. He is 77 now and doing brilliantly.

@rainbowninja Hi Op my mum had kidney cancer. She had a 6cm ball in one kidney and when they went to remove it they found a tiny one (much more invasive and dangerous and of a different kind) in the ither one. So anyway they removed a whole kidney and a bit if theother one and she is atill here to tell the tale. It was 10 years ago. Ans ahe has been absolutely fine as if nothing had happened. No chemo no radio. No dialisis. I too imagined the worst and it was nothing like it. Pm me if you need me.

She also had breast cancer two years after and that also has been ok. And she had severe covid recently and we again though we were saying goodbye with an ICU stay and she came out the other side better than she even went in. (I am Not even joking!)

If you can try not to think to far ahead because the future never will Match what you imagine and it will be worry for nothing. Just gry to focus on the next step.

Hi my husband age 59 has just had his kidney removed because of cancer. His prognosis is really good . Will now just need a yearly check up , no other treatment is needed.

He was in hospital 3 days, discharged once he could pass urine and eat and drink ok. And a check up by the physio that he could walk about ok.
Since the op he’s taking it very easy as advised and resting as much as possible during the day to help his body recover . He’s taking regular pain killers and is feeling much better each day. He had a blood test about a week after the op and it shows his other kidney is already doing the work of 2 ok.

remember you can phone your hospital nurse or the department at the hospital if you have any questions , they don’t mind at all. We were very worried beforehand but decided it was a waste of time to worry too much about things we had no control of or problems that didn’t exist. Wishing your mum a speedy recovery.

Thanks all, sounds like every reason to be positive. It's extra tough because I'm not close to her geographically although even if I was I don't suppose I could go near her because she now needs to shield.

Hi- my DH (53) had kidney cancer last year. Small tumour found totally by accident. Was contained within the kidney- no spread -had a partial nephrectomy via keyhole and surgeon is confident it's gone- last two scans have been clear. With the remaining kidney and the part one he has left the tests show he has about 93% function in toto.

When he was diagnosed I found quite a few stories on here of people who had whole kidneys removed and were still living healthy lives many years later.

Hand hold too- it's a scary time but it's easier knowing and having a plan to move forward. Hope your mum recovers quickly x

Thanks for the positive stories, it's such a roller coaster of feeling like it will probably be ok one minute and then panicking the next 😞