Mum will see my Brother for last time (possibly)

[fathamster]

hello. I'm looking for some advice. My brother lives in Malaysia and has had cancer in his lung, brain and kidney. He has had operations on all 3 but sadly its come back in the lung. The last diagnosis wasn't good and I think we're looking at a year maximum.
Its been such a desperate time as we haven't been able to see him. Its hard enough with the distance but with covid and his lung condition it seems impossible at times.
However it looks like he may come to the uk and visit in a couple of months.
Obviously the whole family are completely broken with the news but I just wondered for my mum mostly, what sort of things would be important to say and do with her son for what could be the last time she sees him (I cant believe I'm writing that). She looked after our Dad for his final few years battling cancer and it just seems so unfair that we all have to go through this again. I keep thinking of us all saying goodbye to him at the airport not knowing whats ahead.
Thanks for any advice xx

Sorry your brother and family find yourselves in this very sad situation.

I don't know what I'd advise except to not have very high expectations of things he can do if he's not feeling very well.
For example, maybe you have a favourite restaurant you all went to then have a meal there, but maybe don't factor in long journeys to other places or late nights.

Your mum and all of you have already seen what cancer can do so be prepared to see a big change in your brother.
I'd be led by him and probably want to spend time doing "ordinary" things, not necessarily "big" things.
With my brother I'd want to watch a film and eat cake and laugh, and in that situation maybe cry.

Also ask him what he wants, he might find an airport goodbye overwhelming if everyone is waving and sobbing, maybe a taxi to the airport would be easier. It might not be but I wouldn't make assumptions and ask him. He's still your brother just with the addition of a dreadful disease. 💐