OP I lost my mum to stage 3C Ovarian last year, she fought it for 4.5 years. When they say they remove the ovaries and the area around the abdomen, at that stage it tends to mean they got most but not everything. Stage 4 is terminal. It’s an evil horrible disease and often slips under the radar for a while before resurfacing in other areas, Ovarian can cause a number of complications.
My advice is this:
Sort your DD out, she is your priority. The hospital are caring for your mum, there’s not a great deal more you can do except be by her bedside at this point.
Go and visit your mum, try and find out as much as possible about what has happened. Some patients prefer not to know the full extent of what is happening, others want to know everything. Try and gage what your mum knows and is willing to know. For your sanity and for practical reasons you need to know as much as possible. Does DM have a partner or husband? If so ask them what they know.
Talk to the Macmillan nurses and get up to speed on the REALITY of Ovarian, trust me, it blindsided us as the years went on. You need to know what to expect as time goes on because denial only makes the reality harder to cope with.
Do you have any siblings? If Mum is in hospital for a while then rota your visiting days/ hours with them, her partner if she’s one and her friends. Extended stays or frequent admissions in hospital can become a routine with high grade cancer patients.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, your DD and Mum need a strong rested you.
Be positive around your mum.
Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer often has no rainbows or unicorns at the end, but that’s not to say the situation is entirely hopeless. Until you know more then don’t assume the worst. As I said above, educate yourself as much as possible from the Drs and nurses at the hospital.
I’m more than happy to answer any other questions OP, I wish you and your mum as easy a time as possible in this difficult situation. X