How to help a friend

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Name changed and not much detail as I want to respect her privacy but a friend’s DP is terminal with little time left. I want to help but am not a super close friend so don’t want to be over zealous. What support is good/ right level? What’s the right thing to do? It’s shitty and horrible and I feel helpless.

Message, talk about anything and everything. Life limiting illness can be incredibly isolating for the person and their family. If something comes up that they need then offer and always leave the offer of help out there.
If you have any common ground - kids at the same schools / clubs offer help with dropping and collecting etc. Little things that make life easier.

Try and read between the lines a bit but don't be offended if help is refused or not welcomed - it's not personal.

It's a difficult line to tread but lovely of you to try and she will remember it later on

A little kindness goes a long way.

I would offer to help with specific things that you know you can do (e.g. cook them a meal), rather than the very difficult to answer "Please let me know if I can help with anything?"

Just a thought: does the dp have a justgiving page? You could ask them if that might be helpful: being ill is surprisingly expensive.