Mum with advanced cancer, dad is cater but exhausted - help

[jessicanw3]

Looking for some practical help pls.
My mum has advanced cancer and is now unsteady on her feet and my dad cares for her. My dad’s health is not good, but he puts on a brave face and exhausts himself to help her. Both are wonderful people, but extremely stubborn and won’t ask for help. My sibling and I very rarely speak about things that matter. If this experience is in any way similar to yours, please could you give me some help. What practically can I do to give my dad a bit of a break? Macmillan nurses? Marie Curie? How severe do things have to be to get their services? What equipment might be useful for them? Maybe a wristband that has a button my mum can press if she’s fallen that alerts the hospital if my dad is out shopping? How do you persuade them they need more help?
TIA

Not a huge amount of advice to give sorry, am in a very similar situation to you though.

We have organised a wheelchair for Mum and are looking into an emergency call button. They already have assorted hand rails round the house for Dad so don't need more but these might help if they don't already have them in the bathroom, near steps etc.

Does she have a specialist nurse contact? They are usually ideally placed to sign post you towards help and offer practical support.

At the moment we are arranging between us for someone to sit with Mum so Dad can go to the barbers or shop or whatever. Gives him an hour or two 'off'. And we are doing some of the heavier household chores. We've gone down the road of saying to Dad that he has to look after Mum so we will look after him and everything else, which he was more willing to accept.