My father in law is in the end stages of his life.

[Lolaloo12]

Hi everyone.
This is quite a distressing post but I really need advice. My father in law is currently in hospital he has liver and kidney failure due to excessive drinking over the years. The hospital removed all fluids and medications on Tuesday and said there is no hope. So fast forward the week, we are now on day 4 with no fluids and week 2 with no food. He has a syringe driver with his pain relief. He also is Cheyne-Stokes breathing. How possibly is he still going? Is this near the end? We have asked the nurses but they don't seem to interested to be honest. Sorry for the long and upsetting post but I just need advice.
Thankyou

Didn't want to read and not reply.

I can't answer your question. He clearly has a strong constitution but without nutrition no one can go on for ever.

Sorry you're going through this terrible time.

Ddad lasted a week on no fluids/food when he was diagnosed with complete bowel obstruction due to his cancer. It was horrible, although after a few days he was quite peaceful. They did stick him on a drip after 4 days, as he was getting very dehydrated but they only gave it to relieve some symptoms rather than to treat him.

The syringe driver is good news in terms of keeping your FIL comfortable, pain wise. And if he becomes agitated they can add something to help with that too. The breathing does indicate that things are coming towards the end.
Sorry to read you are in this position.

Thank you both for replying. Yes he has been quite agitated so they have added the medication into his syringe driver. I know that nothing can change what is going on I'm just concerned about his situation. He is unconscious and not really responding any more. It's just horrible to watch. 😩
Xx

My lovely Nan kept going and kept going, then the CS breathing began. After a few days of that she simply 'stopped.' We too couldn't quite believe how fiercely she clung on and for so long. It wasn't easy being there but the end was very peaceful. Sending you and your family every good wish.

This is so reassuring to know and that it was peaceful. He has been doing this breathing now for 3 days. Thankyou xx

@Lolaloo12 sorry you're going through this. I lost my dad to bile duct cancer last year (age just 65) and remember all too well the horror of his final few days in the hospice. He did go peacefully in the end with all his family around him, but to watch him deteriorate was heartbreaking. Sending love and hugs and hope you are finding comfort in the rest of your family xx

Thankyou everyone for you kinds words and understanding of my post. After battling very hard he passed away Friday night surrounded by all his loved ones. Xx