Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Life-limiting illness

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Original poster

The beginning of the end

18 replies

FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/08/2018 19:50

So no more chemo for DH, I am guessing months now, although bizarrely he is still feeling fine and is happily building his shed. We are booked in for counselling later in September, DC's know he is not getting better but haven't told them about the latest news. I have quietly rebelled and booked to tae us all the Harry Potter studios on a school day.

OP posts:
JillCrewesmum · 31/08/2018 19:53

I'm sorry to hear this. Harry Potter sounds like a good shout Flowers

viques · 31/08/2018 20:01

I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself, don't be afraid to ask for help, and also don't be afraid to turn away offers of help that you don't need or that come when you don't need or want them.

We found masses of phone calls hard to deal with, intrusive, took up time and we were just saying the same things over and over. If you can bear to , set up a system for emailing updates and only take phone calls from people you want to speak to. Explain why, people who have not been through critical illness don't realise that ten ten minute calls a day , no matter how well intentioned, are very wearing.

The shed sounds like a good project!

Oly5 · 31/08/2018 20:50

I’m so sorry. How old is your DH? How is he feeling about it all? It’s such a horrible time

Original poster
FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/08/2018 21:39

He is 55, DC's are 12 and 10. I think stock is the answer, he has always been a man of few words

OP posts:
Lougle · 31/08/2018 21:42

Oh Five, I think you're allowed to do school day trips in those circumstances! You enjoy it.

Original poster
FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/08/2018 21:47

Stoic not stock, also taking DH gin making, as they keep your gin mix on record which means we can still order bottles after he has gone

OP posts:
ChippingIn · 31/08/2018 21:48

Oh my lovely, I am SO sorry to hear that, so very sorry.

It’s really hard to accept anyway, but when someone looks so well it’s even harder.

Big hugs & lots of strength coming your way, as always xx

bananastar · 31/08/2018 21:50

So so sorry for you. Big hugs and look after each other.

AnnieAnoniMoose · 31/08/2018 21:53

Your DC will benefit FAR more from days with their Dad than school, take as much time out as possible.

I love the Gin idea, that’s fab! Gin

plum100 · 31/08/2018 21:55

I’m very sorry to hear your sad news - I hope he stays feeling well for as long as possible xxxx

DramaAlpaca · 31/08/2018 21:56

I'm so sorry to hear this Flowers

Totally agree with taking your DC out of school and doing lovely things, and the gin idea is brilliant.

BIWI · 31/08/2018 21:56

I'm sorry Sad Flowers

MrsMozart · 31/08/2018 21:58

I'm so sorry lass.

I hope you all enjoy your trips.

StitchingMoss · 31/08/2018 21:59

So sorry to hear your news Five Sad.

bobstersmum · 31/08/2018 22:25

I myself lost a partner to cancer, I was very young myself at the time and didn't get my head around the fact he was going to die. I remember my partner just throwing caution to the wind and doing anything that took his fancy, before he got too ill. I'm so sad to hear your news. I hope you all have as much fun as you possibly can from now on, sending love to you all.

Willowkins · 05/09/2018 00:18

Just so sorry to hear this Five Gin

RichardYeager · 31/05/2019 12:01

Very sad to hear.

Chasingsquirrels · 31/05/2019 12:06

I'm sorry to be reading this update Five, I hope you can pack those memories into this time, Harry Potter and Gin making and time just to "be" together x

New posts on this thread. Refresh page