bladder cancer

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I just heard my mum has bladder cancer.

Really sorry to hear your bad news. If it helps, my DGM was diagnosed with it at the age of 79. She lived to be 94 and didn't need any treatment for the bladder cancer after about 86/87. She had keyhole surgery, and I think she had radiotherapy as well - she definitely didn't need chemo. So it can be very treatable.

for you, my DM has just been diagnosed with cancer and it's a horrible time.

Thank you Bluerabbit, we're still waiting for the letter for the specialist appointment. I'm so sorry to hear that you have had bad news about your DM

Thanks, mine almost certainly has lung cancer (we're waiting for further tests to see what type) so the prognosis, as things stand, is not so good - tumour is too large for surgery but she will be offered chemo. Just in that horrible limbo stage - so I can definitely empathise with your situation.

It's tough isn't it? I don't know what stage or type my mother's is yet - she might know but if she does she's not telling me.
I think it'll be 'less hard' when we know more if you see what I mean.
Sorry that the prognosis isn't good for your mother. I think it's unlikely to be good for mine either due to her age and underlying health issues.

We have a date now for surgery - next week.

I'm sorry about your mum OP . I hope the surgery goes well. What a huge worry for you and frightening too. Below is a link for Macmillan who are really supportive for family as well as those who have cancer. There is a free support number to call if you want any advice and information as well as emotional support. Take care x

www.macmillan.org.uk/?gclid=CjwKCAjwmufZBRBJEiwAPJ3LplSQWNm_GnYID7A1Fu2VP5XfyeNX6AERZM6CDsTVq9mD8tgoOMHg3hoCvY0QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Thank you, I'll have a look at that.

My mil had it. She had an op to remove some and the rest was treated by some sort of treatment that they use some kind of radioactive wash that they spray into your bladder (sorry that's all I remember from what she told me) she had to regularly go back and have it all looked at and she did have another suspicious growth during this time but turned out it wasn't more cancer. However she got good news that it was all gone and then that same year got lung cancer (unrelated) she has been very very lucky and is cancer free again. We were told that cancer grows slower the older you are. She is in mid 70s. Hoping for the best for your dm.

My dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer almost exactly a year ago. He had his bladder removed - took about 6 months to get back to 'normal' - but now completely ok.
Do you know what your mum's operation is going to do?

I think it's the same as bobstersmum but we won't know more until they actually do the surgery; they don't know what stage or anything it is at yet.

oh, and she's late 80s so hopefully that means it's slow growing.

My father in law was diagnosed in 2006. Ultimately they removed his bladder although it was a last resort. He's still here 12 years later. Once he got used to the management of the colostomy he's been fine and dandy.

Hope your mums op goes well. It's a stressful time so look after yourself too.

dazzling surely not a colostomy??? Do you mean a urostomy?

Grumpy. That's exactly what I mean. The perils of posting when you're half asleep 💤

she's now been told that she will be in hospital for 3 days rather than in and out as a day case.

that means it's worse than we thought doesn't it?

struggling to cope with this..been overwhelmed with emails from her with instructions what to do afterwards 'in case I can't do it myself' and seeing her house newly up for sale because she needs to be in sheltered housing.

thanks for the supportive replies.

Hi user has your mum had her operation yet?

friday.

How did things work out?xxx