Relative dying

[Cobblersandhogwash]

What can I do to help? What should I do please?

I’ve just been told my brother-in-law has two months left to live. He has three children aged 15, 18 and 20.

We, the wider family, had no idea he was ill. He's been ill for ten years.

We live 200 miles away. He is a very private person. He didn’t want to tell anyone anything. My sister is nursing him along with his parents. His parents were told only 5 days ago that he had cancer.

He doesn’t want anybody else around. Completely get that and respect it.

I would like to know what I should do - just wait? Do nothing? I feel so badly for the children and all of them and just want to help in the background.

I appreciate any advice.

So sorry to hear this. It’s going to be hard with being far away to be of huge practical help, although, depending on your own circumstances you could offer to go and stay if that would help. Best thing is to ask your sister directly.

This might be helpful:

Comfort in, dump out

They just didn't want anyone around. Any help. Nothing.

He's only taking water now. Is very jaundiced. 😔