My sister has been diagnosed with cancer. We are not particularly close and she has made it fairly clear that she doesn't want to talk about it too much. She tells me all about hospital visits and how tired the treatment is making her but she is very vague about the prognosis, either because she doesn't know or because she doesn't want to discuss it which I get completely. I don't see her often but I went down last weekend and was completely shocked at how ill she clearly is. I don't know if it's the cancer or the treatment but she has lost weight and looks terrible with no energy at all. The thing is, we are a very emotionally uptight family - we never say we love each other or anything like that, but I have always known she was there for me if you know what I mean. I feel like I want to tell her I love her and how much I'll miss her but I can't, partly because I don't want her to think I think she's dying if that's not what's happening and partly because we are just so stiff upper lip that it would seem odd and I think it would embarrass her. Expressing emotion in my family is the equivalent of appearing naked in public. I know that's crazy and I'm not sure what to do.