I'm not coping

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It's been 2 weeks since we discovered my dad has advanced lung cancer with bone mets. I can't even begin processing it I'm absolutely devastated. Every time I see him it makes me sad as he's deteriorating so quickly. We get results from the biopsy and FNA next week and I'm dreading it. That's when it all starts being very real. I have mental heath problems anyway which has caused problems recently but I was just getting better and now this. It's so unfair and cruel.
I suppose my question is this, how do you get through it? People must get through it I just haven't a clue how. I'm going to miss him so much it hurts.

Anybody there?

Hi
Sorry this is so hard and painful. No personal experience but can offer a hug and

Thank you for your reply. I think I just need as much support as I can get whether that be in RL or online.

I haven't experienced this personally but have had a similar devastating diagnosis in the family. I think you don't really process it all until much much later. For now just try to get through each day and do all the practical things which need doing. Be kind to yourself and try to have some tiny pleasant things to look forward to each day- even if it's just something you like to eat or a nice bath. So sorry for your situation.

Thank you that's really good advice.

I am so sorry. My father had cancer. I don't know how i got through it but i did. I don't think I properly processed it until some time after he died. I agree with the above person and send you vibes for strength. This is the hardest bit x

I agree with what's been said above. It's only been 2 weeks. It takes a long time to process this, don't have lots of expectations on what you 'should' be feeling.

Small treats and looking at the positives in each day go a long way.

Thank you so much your comments have really helped. I'm just can't believe this is happening to us. He's a kind, decent man he doesn't deserve this!
Just had a medication change myself at psych on Thursday, will be 4/6 weeks before they kick in. My Gp has given me some propanalol and diazepam to help get me through.
I will try harder tomorrow to do what you've all said.

I don't know how you get through this - but you do. I lost my mum and sister and it was awful to witness. Be there for them, cry and scream if you need to - just do what you feel is right. When my mum was in her final days a nurse told me that hearing was the last thing to go, so I kept talking to my mum right up to the end, and there was still a glimmer of reaction to things I said. It is an awful time, and there will be days when you will feel like the whole world is against you - but you will get through this. Stay strong, and if you need help, please ask for it. For you