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Life-limiting illness

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My amazing brother is gone...

18 replies

NooNooHead · 21/08/2017 21:00

... He passed away in his sleep on Saturday night.😢😥

No words can express my pain or the depth of it. I am still numb and in shock. I could write so much here but I won't. I would like to put my Facebook status that I did (anonymously) as it conveys exactly how I feel, but I think it is probably too personal.😢

I can't believe my brave and wonderful brother is gone. How can people go forever? I just don't get how someone can just cease to be - it all seems so final. 😥😥😥

Life is so unfair and I hate cancer so much.

OP posts:

ImperialBlether · 21/08/2017 21:03

I'm so sorry.

QOD · 21/08/2017 21:04

SO so sorry 🙁💔

SupermanStoleMyPants · 21/08/2017 21:06

Oh love, I'm so sorry. Would you like to tell us a bit about him?

MrsMozart · 21/08/2017 21:41

I am so very sorry.

A hand hold and an ear if you need it.

notanurse2017 · 21/08/2017 21:42

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derxa · 21/08/2017 21:44

I've been through it all I know OP

PerfumeIsAMessage · 21/08/2017 21:45

So sorry

PerfumeIsAMessage · 21/08/2017 21:45

So sorry

Corneliasedet · 21/08/2017 21:50

I am so sorry for your loss. My brother died 3 years ago. It is hard without them and it's still unbelievable to me that he's totally gone. Sending all kindest wishes.

Bimblepops · 21/08/2017 21:50

I'm so sorry xxx

thisyearwillbefab · 21/08/2017 21:52

Please tell us about him xx

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 21/08/2017 21:53

So very sorry OP.

Unexpectedbaby · 21/08/2017 21:55

I'm so sorry.

I lost my younger brother 3 years ago in October to a Brain tumour. If you want to talk or want a listening ear please just message me

Willowkins · 21/08/2017 21:57

I feel for you Noonoo and I remember your other post. Cancer is so, so unfair. I hope you are able to sleep tonight. Peace and love.

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NooNooHead · 21/08/2017 22:35

Thank you all so much.
I hardly slept a wink last night, it was so awful. It was still a shock but not unexpected, obviously. He was only 34 and had bowel cancer, he had been fighting it for 18 months.
My poor parents did so much for him, being there nearly every week even though they live 150 miles away.

We saw him clinging on desperately, lingering right until the very end. He had the awful cancer condition cachexia which meant he was very very thin and literally skin and bone. It was heartbreaking to see him so poorly and thin.

I hadn't really had a proper relationship with him for a long time. We were close as children but grew apart as adults as we were very different people.

He was quite difficult to get on with but we all loved him to pieces despite his very trying ways. He didn't deserve to for in such an awful way, cancer is such a bastard. 😥😥😥😥

My heart is broken - I hope I can sleep again ok tonight. 😖

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MrsMozart · 22/08/2017 07:05

It sounds like the family bond brought you together and you were all there when needed most.

I hope you slept.

Babyroobs · 22/08/2017 11:59

So sorry to read what your brother went through, hope you got some sleep last night and that you have plenty of people supporting you.

Minervamouse77 · 22/08/2017 17:22

So sorry for your loss.

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