Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Life-limiting illness

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Flip

Original poster

Devastated

13 replies

Musicaltheatremum · 06/02/2017 23:03

I'm a GP. My partner at work (there are 6 of us) has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer with secondaries. All the remaining partners are devastated. Have to go in tomorrow and tell my staff a rough idea of what is going on(he's still undergoing tests and doesn't want too much said until, after this) and also have to deal with patients who won't understand when we say he's on indefinite leave. He's just 60, an amazing colleague and GP. life is not fair

OP posts:

OfDragonsDeep · 06/02/2017 23:20

So sorry

user1473539918 · 06/02/2017 23:24

So sorry.
My mother had pancreatic cancer.
Thoughts are with you

321zerobaby · 06/02/2017 23:32

So sorry. My fil died of this aged 57, devastating is the right word for it, such a cruel cancer with no warnings.

PacificDogwod · 07/02/2017 07:35

That is terrible, so sorry for him and you all

We had a partner off with breast Ca a number of years ago and I vividly remember the shock of it being so close to 'home' (well, work, but you know what I mean). Different scenario, entirely, I know

Badders123 · 07/02/2017 16:40

I'm very sorry
What a shock for you all
💐

echt · 11/02/2017 05:36

It's utterly cack, Musical, slice it where you will.

Whileweareonthesubject · 11/02/2017 05:53

Very sad. Also, because of your occupation, you and his colleagues will have a very good understanding of what this means for him, as well as the difficulty of explaining to your patients, who won't. A sad and difficult situation for you all.

user1486613612 · 11/02/2017 06:01

I'm so sorry. I once heard this radio program where a GP told of a story when a patient had asked if there was a patient's association for people with pancreatic cancer, and he (the gp) had sadly had to admit there was none, because there were no survivors - nobody was around sufficiently long time to start a patient support group...

MagicChicken · 11/02/2017 06:11

I am sorry for you and your colleague. I think the best thing to do is not to tell his patients anything specific, just say he's retired suddenly due to ill health, or even just 'retired.' At 60 I doubt any of them will think it unusual and he doesn't owe his patients an explanation.

There will be time for that later.

phoebe2016 · 11/02/2017 06:40

Very sorry to hear about your colleague my Grandad had it and it was ferocious, no hope of treatment. At least he was 79 and had lead a full life, 60 is no age at all. I lost my Mum at that age and it's just too young. All you can do is be there to support your friend and colleague as much as possible.

MrsNuckyThompson · 11/02/2017 07:15

Very sorry. We lost my MIL 3 years ago to this dreadful illness. DH and I didn't really have any idea about what a horrific diagnosis it was - she did as she was a GP herself. It is a sneaking horrible cancer. She had mets in her lungs, liver and bones by the time she was diagnosed.

Good luck supporting your partner and telling the staff. So horrible.

sandgrown · 11/02/2017 07:24

My mum.died very suddenly of pancreatic cancer. I was told its hard to treat as few symptoms until quite advanced . It's a horrible disease. We have just been told two colleagues have breast cancer. It certainly puts things in perspective.

frazzled3ds · 11/02/2017 18:34

Thoughts with you OP and your colleagues, my DF was told yesterday (on his birthday) that he has pancreatic cancer and there's nothing they can do.....

I hope your colleague and all those impacted by this news are able to support each other in some way - it really is an utter bastard :-/

Flip