Hi,
The husband of my old work colleague/friend has just been told he has 12 weeks left to live. I don't see my friend as often as when we worked together but we meet up once in a while. We all got made redundant so all my old work colleagues and me are like a little family really. When we get tougher it's like no time has passed! We've all been through tough times together.
I know her husband fairly well, he is such a lovely person and it just seems so unfair. He has been diagnosed with an aggressive brain tumour.
I really want to offer support to my friend but no words or actions seem anywhere near enough. I can't verbalise what I would like to say. I'm ignorant of how she feels, I don't have any idea how she's living each day at the moment. And the some goes for her husband too, I would love to be able to help, but I feel helpless. I wish I could take the pain away.
We're meeting up with them soon, but I'm nervous about seeing them, I don't know what I would say. I suppose the best thing is to carry on as normal, but it seems like such a hard thing to ignore! But then if that is what they need then that's what I will do.
I'm just feeling really sad for them, and want to support them but don't know how.
They have lots of friends that live nearer to them, they haven't contacted me directly, a mutual friend told me as she didn't want to keep repeating the sad news.
I suppose I'm posting because I want to help but don't know how. Plus I feel sad and I'm struggling to think of anything else this morning other than my friends. He's only in his late 40s.