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Skin and bone

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Ludoole · 30/09/2015 11:23

My husband used to be a strong, strapping 15-16 stone man. I used to feel safe in his strong arms.
He's now 7stone and 7lbs. He is skin and bone. I can count his ribs and his vertabre from across the room. I can see the fear in his eyes.
He's finally agreed to take morphine for his relentless pain.
He doesnt deserve this.
My children dont deserve this.
I dont deserve this.
Nobody deserves this!!!

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gatewalker · 30/09/2015 11:30

Flowers to you, your husband, your kids, Ludoole. I am so very sorry. No, no-one deserves this.

Are you all getting support?

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Ludoole · 30/09/2015 11:41

Thank you Gatewalker
Dh and the boys lean on me for support. I use mumsnet and a couple of cancer forums.
Real life support is in short supply...
Today is just a particularly bad day, hopefully tomorrow will be better.

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Lilybensmum1 · 30/09/2015 16:24

ludoole I have no words for what you are going through you paint a picture that describes how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you. I hope your dh is comfortable and that tomorrow is easier if that's possible.

You sound like you are staying so strong, do you have no one at all in real life to talk to? Feel free to chat away on here and tell us about your dh.
You are right no one deserves this but your boys need you to keep it all going.

I hope you can stay strong.

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Ludoole · 30/09/2015 18:15

Lilybensmum I have my dm who wants to help but she has her own battle with my df who has advanced alzheimers and prostate cancer.
People in real life don't know what to say, and in my experience back away when they know the cancer is terminal. I cant say i blame them to be honest... Its heartbreaking to watch someone decline this way.

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echt · 30/09/2015 21:53

Thanks, Ludoole. So sorry that you and your DH are going through this, and hope for more comfortable day tomorrow.

sugar21 · 30/09/2015 22:05

So sorry Ludoole
No you dont deserve to go through it neither does your dh and dc. I havent got any wise words, just want you to know that I shall be thinking of you and hope you can find the strength to carry on. Life can be a pile of shite and it doesnt seem right that the good people have the shite thrown at them. Hopefully the morphine will kick in and your dh will be pain free for a while. Dont really know what else to write except I send you good wishes and try to look after yourself. Give dh and dc a hug from me.

Lilybensmum1 · 30/09/2015 22:17

ludoole I understand I'm a nurse and I see this in practice. You
Can't Change people I guess, but, if you want to talk or pm on here I'm happy to chat to you.

You have so many things to deal with your df who is also I'll I'm sorry. Please if I can help by chatting just let me know.

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Ludoole · 01/10/2015 00:35

Such lovely people on here!! Thank you Flowers
It helps that someone hears me so i thank each of you for your lovely words. Flowers

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SilverNightFairy · 01/10/2015 00:42

So sorry, love. My heart goes out to your family. You must be exhausted trying to hold everything together Flowers I will hold you in my thoughts and prayers..

DickDewy · 01/10/2015 00:45

So sorry for you and your family.

CharleyDavidson · 08/10/2015 22:54

Ludoole, your OP is eloquent and moving.

Sorry you and your family are going through this.

Thanks
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