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Dad rang to tell us he is dying and has known for sometime

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whatisforteamum · 19/04/2015 08:26

well as i suspected dads aggressive cancer is no longer being controlled by chemo.this is no surprise and he has had longer than anyone ive managed to find on cancer community websites.
it was in his prostate lymph nodes and then bladder its now in his ribs and spine which you can live with however he has a rare aggressive type.
he knows we will look after mum whose cancer will return at some point.he has has 2 1/2 YRS since diagnosis.
He told my much younger adopted sis he has know for sometime the chemo wasnt working and its almost a relief to get it confirmed.
he may stop driving soon because of the pain.He knows he wont make the yr out and i dont think he will make the end of summer.
My heart is breaking and ive warned my work colleagues as they cn be insensitive GRR i hate caner but realise we have been so lucky so far .

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whatisforteamum · 20/06/2015 19:07

This will be Dads last fathers day.i still have a lovely card to write.i am working 10 till 11 pm at least.Thnking how hard it will be for many people with their dear dad so ill x

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WhenMarnieWasThere · 21/06/2015 00:44

It's so hard, isn't it? I'm sure that it will be my DF's last father's day too. I have a lighthearted card that also says how I've looked up to him. And I got lovely personalised gifts from his grandchildren. I hope he likes them.

The thought of lots of 'lasts' makes my heart sad, but also makes me determined to make them special.

My own DF has a sense of practicality about getting things sorted now and has tackled house things and money things since getting his prognosis. It's good to see him with a purpose and it's strange to know that practically he's no more ill than he was last week, but that he now has this prognosis hanging over his head.

Flowers OP.

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