Unsure how to support my family

[CinammonGirl]

My lovely mil was diagnosed in spring this year with cancer which has spread. Since her diagnosis, it's been very hard - nobody talks about it and I just don't know how best to support them. If I try to talk to DH, he just clams up and changes the subject. I go with mil to all her appointments, make sure she spends lots of time with my dd and have told her I am always here if she wants to talk but she never does. I feel so helpless and useless and I just wish there was more I could do. I just don't know how to deal with all of this. Does anyone have any advice at all? Should I push DH to talk to me?

I wouldn't push DH - it sounds like he's struggling with the diagnosis. You are doing lots, more than most would expect from a DIL. I think just continue what you're doing. When they're both ready to talk you know that you're there for them. Sounds like the not talking about feelings may run in the family.

Thank you frazmum - it certainly does run in the family. I think maybe I have to try to accept that they just don't want to discuss it yet and be there for them when they do. It's just hard to know the right thing to do. Thank you for replying x