My lovely step dad of nearly 20 years is in the very final stages of terminal cancer poss days left.. My DM is being strong & is utterly devoted to caring for him at home as much as poss she is doing an amazing job.
I have step siblings that are visiting everyday more or less, I live quite a distance & don't drive but however train journey is ok. I'm a lone parent but have friends here who would have dc's if I need to dash off.
I am unsure of 2 things firstly is it my place to be there so close to the end or even at the end & what to do to support my mum... I just feel so helpless.
I have left it up to her to tell me if she wants me to hop on a train & made it clear it's no problem but I respect her wishes if she thinks it's best I don't!
He is not very conscious most of the time if he wakes he is quite agitated but I asked her to tell him that I love him & he's the best dad & grandad anyone could have wished for.