Feel cheated

[Ludoole]

Almost 3 weeks ago we were told my soulmate had bowel cancer which has spread to his liver and lymph nodes.
He had surgery to remove his lower bowel and now has a permanent stoma.

We've been told he is stage 4 and life expectancy is 6 months to 5 years.

We are being as positive as we can but tonight it has hit me that we wont grow old together. I feel desperately cheated and im struggling to see how I will go on without him at my side.

Hes been my best friend since I was 18 (20 years) and we finally got together 8 years ago.

Hes my everything and I cant keep him safe.

I'm so sorry

Oh my. How devastating. I cannot imagine.

Selks Thankyou
I wish I could swap with him.
Id gladly give my life for his. He's amazing and he is my superhero.

I have 2 boys who arent his although I wish they were as they love him so much.
He really is a beautiful soul.
How can this happen to someone so wonderful?

Hes absolute skin and bone.
He used to have a lovely pot belly and he dropped to 11 stone 3 weeks ago. Hes now 9 stone and I can count his ribs and vertebrae...

Still fancy the skinny little arse off him though

Sorry. Im waffling on.
I just want people to know how incredible he is. I cant share anything with people in real life and I need to be positive for my man.

So sorry to hear this.

He sounds wonderful, OP. The time you have with him is very precious. Wishing you all some lovely, happy times together. X

he sounds amazing and you and your kids are so lucky to have him in your lives.

life can be so unfair.

Why can't you share anything in real life? You could do with some support right now x

So very sorry. Do get some rl support- Macmillan and make every moment count. Take millions of pics.

Dozily
I cant share in rl as my mum is dealing with my dad who has Alzheimers and Vascular dementia. I cant add to her worries anymore.
My best female friend has slipped away since she met and married her fella recently and my extended family arent interested.

Thankyou all for listening. It helps to get it out

Lots of cancer wisdom and support on the tamoxigang threads- plenty of wise and funny ones who will offer support and knowledge. Please keep posting to eagle against the light. Do you have Macmillan support? Your local hospice can help too- they are all about loving life and support.

Hi op,
I know this post is a few weeks old but my family are in a similar situation.
My mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel (advanced and also in liver) cancer. We are seeing oncologist next week but told surgery not an option at this time.
My parents have been together since they were 14 and I have 4 sisters (the youngest is 14). We are struggling but trying to be positive. Feels like we are living a nightmare.
I have found the support on the beating bowel cancer website forum really useful-it may help you? Life is just so cruel sometimes but we need to make the most of every day x

Upupàndaway so sorry to hear about your mum.
Its a horrible insidious disease.
I shall check out the forum you suggest, thankyou. Real life support seems impossible in our case so that may help.
Keep strong and im so sorry you are in this dark place with me

Hi there
Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk Ludoole. Our little family too has been sadly affected by cancer. My husband is currently fighting stage 3A renal cell carcinoma. We too have young kiddies :-( xx