What should we do about baby's surname?

[captainplanet]

Hi,

My partner and I are going to start TTC shortly and are unsure of what to do about the baby's surname. We would both really like it if we all had the same name as a family but just picking one of ours seems a bit heteronormative.

Do we pick one of ours (and then get the other to change their name), double barrel both our names (not a great idea as both are hard to pronounce and spell) or just make something completely new up by combining the too?

Have any of you been in this situation and what did you do?

If there's already a thread about this, my apologies, I'm new here

Thanks

I'd double barrel - no one can spell either DH's or my surnames, so we figured that putting them together wouldn't make it harder.

Or pick a new name for all of you and change your and DPs names.

I think it is nice for children to have a name in common with one or both of their parents

I think choosing one name as a last name and having the other name as a middle is a great idea and probably the most sensible. Though I would have great fun in choosing a new last name....Minogue sounds good

wow, thanks very much for your replies, you have given us plenty to think about. Had not thought of using one as a middle name or indeed that it would probably be most convenient if the SAH mum has the same surname.

I'm sure this will be the first of many things I come here looking for advice on

We used my surname (bio mum) for various reasons, but we now think that was a mistake. We are about to adopt dd2 and agreed that we will use the opportunity to rename both girls, double-barrelled (which i hate, but anything else just doesn't feel right).

Thanks flatpack, not good to hear about your parents rejecting your children, that must be really hard. Maybe when your twins arrive they will change.

Not sure how our parents will react (my dad did once say that he thought kids needed both a mum and dad blah blah blah) but as DP is only child and my parents live downunder I think they're just going to be happy if any exist at all no matter what the circumstances. beggars can't be choosers after all!

The law change in april 2009 was indeed brilliant and we feel really lucky to both be able to go on the BC.

We are leaning towards double barrelling but it does make me feel sorry for our future children as it's quite a mouthful.

We are CP'ed and double-barrelled at the time. So our little boy(!) will have our surname.

Came across this site while searching for advice relating to our babies second names. Myself (bio mum) and my CP had decided that we would double barrel our second names, having read this thread Im now not so sure. You?ve given us something to think about! Also happy to see were not the only soon to be mummies of twins out there!

Due the middle of September, but Im scheduled for a section end of August.
Weve gone for 2 relatively short first names so we could DB our surnames, so I think we'll stick with that. Cheers and good luck for your birth day!