Suddenly feeling i might be bisexual and so confused.

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I have felt attraction to women from time to time throughout my life but never really given it much thought.
I am now overwhelmingly attracted to a woman and my feelings are all over the place.
I don't know what I am hoping for by posting this really.
Has this happened to anybody else?

Is she gay? Would anything be likely to happen? Not much different from being attracted to a man if they are unobtainable.

Hope someone comes on and posts something useful soon.

She is gay but also famous and I haven't actually met her. Sigh.

Are you in a relationship already?

I am bi and even though I didn't realise it until I was in my twenties, looking back, the signs were always there. I used to look at the bra pages of my Mum's catalogues for example. I've never really seen it as being any different to being hetrosexual or homosexual. If you are in a relationship then there will always be other people who are attractive. If you were overwhelmingly attracted to a man, would it be any different?

My Mum always disapproved strongly of bisexuals and felt that they could never be in a monogamous relationship because one person could never fulfill all their desires. She does not know about my sexuality! And she's right - except that no-one person can fulfill all of a heterosexual or homosexual persons desires either. It's just a romantic myth.

I am married, and I sometimes think about being with a woman, and all the fun things that we could do, but I love DH too much to ever be unfaithful or bring someone else into our marriage. Do you feel that there was something lacking in your relationship to start with? Or is this a case of overwhelming lust that you will have to suck up? A lot of hetero women post similar things about men on the Relationship boards.

This is all a bit rambling, sorry, and it probably sounds harsher than I want it to. Because attraction to someone else can be very difficult.

Ah, cross-posted.
If you haven't met her and she's famous then that helps a great deal. She isn't an actual threat. This might sound flippant, but my fantasies about women have been a real boon to my married sex life.

(I am a regular, but have name-changed, by the way)

But I like her so much

I am trying to get out of a shitty relationship and my head is in a mess. But that doesn't mean my feelings aren't real. Hell I am just confused and unhappy.

I am a namechanger too.

It is the fact that i have had feelings for women before, albeit not this intense, it is like putting together a jigsaw.

Ah, I see.

I suppose that I see it as two different things -

You are coming out of a shitty relationship, and that's grim, and then you develop a massive crush on a celebrity, and you've never met them, and you feel rotten. That's the bad bit.

The other thing is that it's dawned on you that you are probably bi. That bit isn't bad at all, it's just who you are, and it shouldn't cause you any problems (unlike the break-up and the crush). In fact, it might enhance your life in the longer term.

Unless you have a strong religious belief that means that homosexuality is a sin, or something. Is that the case?

Sorry, I've just realised what the time is - I need to get some sleep!

No, I have no problems with people being bi or gay, just didn't include myself in that. If that is how I am it will take some getting used to. but how can I know for sure?

I suppose that you're bi if you fancy both men and women. Which you do. But you don't have to do anything about it. You could just keep it inside as a possibility and concentrate on being nice to yourself to get over your previous relationship.

I think sexuality is a continuum... sometimes there will be people you are just attracted to, and gender won't come into it.

I was married and had 2 kids, I used to say I was bisexual when i was married because it didnt upset my partner to think this, to be true i only got married to a man because this was what was expected of me!!! Anyway my straight relationship failed miserably as i wasnt trully happy in myself. I spent a lot of time confused about my sexuality, i mean how could i really be gay if id been married and had 2 kids??!! anyway the only way you will know for sure if u are gay or bi is to try having relationship with same sex, is the way you feel about women the same as the way you feel about men? I confused my feelings of friendship with men for feelings of love and sexual attraction, it wasnt untill i stared to have relations with women that i realised that i felt completely different about men and women and that i was only sexually attracted to women all along, i was just confused!! i hope this helps and doesnt just confuse you further lolXX ps sorry for such long post just got lot to say!!