Bisexual women in LTR with men - do you have a community?

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I'm a serial monogamist who understood myself to be a lesbian and had a LTR with a girl as a teenager. To my suprise, I then met and was in a relationship with a man for a few years in my 20s and I think, have since considered myself as either bisexual, or pansexual nowdays, without ever really feeling the need to give myself a label.

I was subsequently attracted to both men and women whilst single, until I got together with my current male partner who I have been with for many years, and have a family with.

Around 8 years ago we moved towns and I've found myself living in a very heteronormative environment. It just hasn't been particularly relevant to tell people about my sexuality but also, through therapy over the last couple of years, I accept that I've masked alot to avoid the homophobia/bi-phobia I experienced as a younger person, especially from family.

For various reasons I've mentioned it several times over the last year both at work and to local friends I've made via school/kids activities and whilst this has been ok, people's reactions have only reminded me of how 'other' I feel amongst straight groups. In a bid to branch out a bit I attended a Pride related event a few months back, which also left me feeling like I'm not 'queer enough' to fit in there. It's ridiculous - I am sure the number of Bi people is huge but I for one always feel I don't fit in straight or queer spaces.

Any Bi women in LT opposite-sex relationships here who might have some advice about friendly groups to join for community? I'm based in London.

You could try Skirt Club. Some of it is based around sex parties and exploring your sexuality but there is a good community of bisexual women who are married/in LTR with men. Might be a good place to start anyway.

Hi OP, I could have written your post. No advice but will be following with interest!

Wow...

It's good to hear I'm not 'alone' but sorry you're also missing real life community, too. In my experience, I realise the isolated feeling is due to becoming a mum without already having LGBTQ+ friendships. There is a lot of 'being put into a box' as a woman, then as a mum.

I don't - I'm very lonely in that respect. Only my husband and my parents/sister know this about me - I am reluctant to share more widely as it might look as though I'm trying to make myself more interesting (I am a boring middle-aged woman). I am nowhere near London but interested to know if such communities exist.

Not sure what that reaction means but I joined skirt club as a single woman exploring my bisexuality. It wasn’t something I could discuss with anyone but the people I met through SC were amazing.
I’m now married to a man and we have a child.
However, I’ve made some amazing friends and still attend the brunches and cocktail evenings as it’s nice to chat to women who are in the same position as me (bi sexual and married to a man)

I'm sorry, that was my initial reaction to clicking on the page. The first few carousel images made it seem like a kink ot hook-up only site. I appreciate your response and the signposting.