Two mum families - what do your kids call you?

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We recently had a baby and our family keep asking what he will call my wife and I. Just wondered what other people go by, or have you let your child decide? Is it important for us to be called different names? We both like 'mummy' and are not so keen on Mama. But if it's important that he is able to call us different names I will compromise and be called Mama. Let me know your thoughts :)

We use Mummy and Mama, but you could do Mummy Yourname and Mummy Hername if you prefer. Then your child will probably end up calling you both Mummy when he can talk. Our elder child mostly uses Mummy and Mama but will also just yell Muuuuum! interchangeably.

We let DS1 decide and for a long time were "Ma" (the one that was there) and "other Ma" (the one that was not there). If we were both there and the wrong one answered then we had an exasperated "No, other Ma!"

We thought this worked out fine, but nursery were horrified and thought "other Ma" was really insulting. Then we were both mummy which, again, worked fine. Then DS1 decided he wanted different names for us when he was about 4 (coincided with going to reception, so not sure if that was a factor) and he decided one of us was mummy and one of us was mama.

We all were in agreement that we didn't like "mummy [name]", which was floated by various people over the years.

Congratulations on your baby! Hope everyone is doing well.
We started with Mummy [name] but it got long winded and confusing. We changed to Mummy & Mami pretty quickly, which works for us. When our daughter was learning to talk it started as mum & mam which was cute, she would have struggled with Mummy [name] but does like to identify us separately.
We chose to have birthing parent as Mummy and non birthing (me) as Mami.
Most people get it right, but for some my mum keeps calling me mummy, and this baffles our little girl.

We are Mum and Mummy. 💗

Ours used to say Dumb and Mad

not me

I knew two guys who were pappy and daddy
Two girls who were both mum (somehow it worked)

Congratulations to you and your partner

We are both Mummy. If dd needs to differentiate she uses our first names. DP always refers to us as Mummy [name] if she needs to differentiate, but dd never followed her example.

I don't think it's important for him to call you different names. Of course when he is able to talk, he will make his own decisions. Those choices will probably change over time. I doubt many teenagers still call their mothers mummy.

Family I know use mum and mama, but love mum and mam!

We are Mummy and Mami, which could then become Mum and Mam when DC are older 😊

Congratulations!

Our family are going through this right now!

Our son is 14m and is saying ‘mama’ which we have worked out refers to me. He shouts ‘daddy’ gleefully at his other mum and we think it’s so cute and funny, but like pp said, nursery are horrified and feel we need to correct our son to ‘mum’. We would be happy whatever he likes to call us so don’t really feel a need to correct him at such a young age. I refer to my wife as ‘mummy’ eg ‘let’s go and find mummy’ etc so think it is just a matter of time.

I would be curious to know what you decide, and for posters whose children and older, did you have to direct them or did they just naturally decide as they were learning to talk?

My partner is French (we have a 4 yo) she used to call me mummy and her Maman (French for mum as DD’s also bilingual) but recently we’ve both become mummy or mama but when DD talks to me about her when she’s not there she refers to her as maman

I'm mum or mama (I prefer mama but the teen DS's feel this is childish now) and my wife is Mammy as she is Irish and this is what came naturally. They also quite often call us by our first names which we feel completely neutral about.

My wife is mum or mummy, I am mama. My wife is English and in my home country we use mama mostly, so it just made sense for us! Our little one is still a baby and calling everyone "mama" though.