Homophobic boyfriend and Bisexual child

[Chelle2312]

Hello all, so my boyfriend of two years who I live with, has become very vocal about the fact people should not be gay/trans or what ever it may be that makes someone different from him. A few days ago he aggressively called Harry Styles a freak for being open about his sexuality and dressing how he does. He said this in front of one of my sons.

My 21 year old son who doesn't live at home any more is pansexual, and my other 13 year old son (the one who witnessed the Harry Stles bashing) I think is also and has also loved in the past dressing in girls clothes and experimenting with different styles like that.
I'm completely supportive of anyone's lifestyle I myself am bisexual.

I just can't shake the heartbroken feeling that my children will pick up on my partners hate for it and it will deter them from coming to speak to me in the future Or make them feel like they can't be who they want to be.

I'm seriously considering ending things with my Partner over this as it's something I feel I can't let slide.

Has anybody experienced this before And overcome the issue?

Thanks x

Ditch the partner.

People who spout homophobic shite deserve to be alone.

I wouldn't want to go out with someone like that regardless of my kids' opinions. Why do you? Are these new opinions?

I'm as gender critical as they come, but homophobia and calling people freaks is a whole other level.

I wouldn't be able to stay with someone with those views, even without a child that would have to live with it too- sorry.

FFS, Of course you’ve got to ditch him, he’s a nasty piece of work!

What’s attractive about someone who’s homophobic?

I don't think you have any choice but to ditch him. He sounds hideous and you'll end up with no relationship with your DC if you stay with him.

Dump him. What an ignorant pig.

End it now

Your boyfriend sounds like a Neanderthal.
I wouldn’t be friends with him, let alone have him as a partner and that’s without dc who would feel personally insulted and rejected by him.
Ditch him.

No one needs to date homophobes. Get him out of your house. Obviously.

You're bisexual with a homophobe boyfriend? Raise the bar!

My son is straight as far as I know and I wouldn't fancy having a homophobic partner, why would that be ok?

I would say that my late husband wasn't perfect in this way because his mum is homophobic and he hadn't thought about those views. So I said why I found them completely unacceptable and he thought about it and decided I was right. Even so, he would never have called anyone a freak and neither would she, that's homophobia plus nasty aggression.

Forgetting the impact on your children and the general repugnance of his views, you're dating someone who is contemptuous about an aspect of your personality. That in itself is grounds to break up. Do you generally have low self-esteem, or does the boyfriend make you feel like you don't deserve better?

If he doesn’t support trans ideology, that’s one think. It’s harmful. But if he’s homophobic too, I’d get rid of him. Does he know you are bisexual?

Thank you for you messages. Not so much for the judgement. No body knows how somebody elses relationship is so please quit with the bashing.
Helpful advise and validation was what I needed to confirm what I was already thinking really So thank you for those messages. We've been together two years, he has only just recently expressed these opinions so of course no I would've have pursued things with him if it was apparent he was homophobic when I first met him!

*thing

I mean OP he is attacking your own children. This reeks of 'man who has been on best behaviour lets his mask slip'. This is who he is so listen.

Your instincts are right OP, dumb him. All we can do is pray for the courage to break up with men who cross lines, open homophobia being one of them. Anyone who makes your kids feel uncomfortable should go.

A positive spin: easy break up! You can be a hundred percent confident that you are doing the right thing .

I don’t see any ‘bashing’?

You need to tell him it’s not ok. You need to leave him if he doesn’t change

I'm surprised you haven't already ditched him tbh, especially given you yourself are bisexual.

He'd be already gone

Ditch the homophobe

Couldn't be with him. Especially given the fact that you are bi. Does he know this? What has he said about your kids?

I would not be friends with someone who was homophobic let alone have them as my partner, regardless of my children’s sexualities. Dump him and work on yourself.