My child (19) has recently told me they are trans. My love and support and unconditional and they are incredibly happy about that. I'm so proud they felt they could come to me.
However, I'm really struggling with the she/her pronouns and the new name. I can get on board with they/them but why is it so hard to go that bit further? My child understands completely and appreciates that it will take me some time, especially since they're not out to the rest of the family and I have to refer to them as their dead name outwith the house.
Will it get easier?
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Child told me they're trans
Wacadu · 11/03/2022 23:55
CloudPine · 15/05/2022 13:11
You’re struggling with the cognitive dissonance created by someone denying their own reality and asking you to pretend too. So yes, that’s tough. You’ll likely always feel uncomfortable on some level. Assuming they don’t detransition in a year or two.
For a deep dive into trans issues, the podcast Gender - A Wider Lens is hugely helpful. Lots of episodes devoted to helping parents.
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