Coming out...anyone else have a negative experience?

[RainbowBriteUk]

I'm in my late thirties now but I came out to my mum in my late teens and told her I was bisexual. Her response was to call me a fucking slag and that I wasn't because I was sleeping with lots of men (I was sleeping with lots of men as a defence to try and not be attracted to females because I knew it wouldn't go down well). Anyway, twenty years down the line and i'm still attracted to females as well as men which is no surprise.

My experience of coming out was horrible and has shaped part of my life. I've always had a presence in the gay community though but I identify as straight for an easier life.

God that sounds hard, I'm sorry you dealt with that. Same sex attraction is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of. I also came out as bi to my parents as a teen. My dad has always been homophobic but it went fine, they didn't really say anything. My dad did tell me "I don't tell you about my sex life" the only other time I mentioned my bisexuality to him though, at about 15. So I stopped mentioning it. And I certainly don't mention it to him now, because I've gone no contact Best decision ever.

@BourbonScreams I'm sorry for your dad's homophobia. That sounds hard. Congratulations on coming out though! There's always going to be homophobia in life but it's how we deal with it and fight against it that matters. Fighting against our own families bullshit though is an impossible task it seems!

Definitely!! And congratulations to you too, you're so brave carrying on after what happened xx Haha I didn't even think about wider family - My parents didn't allow me to come out to them. Which really gets on my nerves. I think next time I see them I'll just do it anyway. I'm sure they'll be disgusted and shun me but that's their loss

Aren't parents bastards sometimes?!

I still hear homophobic shit from both of them (well my stepdad) despite my mum being aware. Or maybe she's decided to conveniently forget lol.

I didn’t have the best experience either. Parents weren’t exactly unsupportive, they just didn’t know what to do or what to say. It was my sister who made it a pretty mortifying experience. When I came out to the family, my parents were very serious about it, but my sister burst out laughing, and said that I was only saying that because no boy would ever like me. I have various other bad experiences with my sister, who never seems to take me seriously, but this was the worst. Also, when I was in uni and we were young adults, she tried to set me up with one of her male friends, even after knowing that I was lesbian. Today I’ve been married for over ten years, with three kids, and she is always making homophobic jokes at family gatherings. I honestly don’t know what her problem is.

I've never come out!
I'm living the life I'm expected to live for an easy life 😩

My father in law still refers to me as my wife's 'friend'. The friend who produced his only grandchild.

We don't really have much to do with him though because his vileness isn't limited to my or my wife's sexuality.