Hi, my daughter decided she was trans in 2020. At first we were supportive because we're liberal and equated it to being LGB. But then I started doing research and became absolutely horrified. I'm an attorney, an author and at the time I was writing fan fiction for a ship that has a character a lot of young people identify as trans. I think I learned a lot of things other parents didn't because I spent a lot of time talking to teens online due to my fiction writing.
After several conversations with my daughter over the next few months she realized she wasn't trans. She's now happy being a young woman who wears what she wants and doesn't think about her identity. I just finished life coaching school and this feels like my mission in life-- helping parents talk to their kids and the best way to approach it. I would love to post some of these ideas and get feedback and real world testing to see if it's as helpful as I think it is before I go out into the world and offer my services as a business. I hope that's appropriate to do here!
Firstly, I think the trans ideology has to be approached like a cult. Which means trying to point out the cognitive dissonance when things don't make sense. Imo the first step is starting with JK Rowling. Asking your teen what she did, why she was cancelled and how they know she's hateful. And then letting them see what she actually wrote which is on her website. (Print it out). I asked my daughter where she was wrong because I couldn't see what was so hateful and I wanted to understand. I believe calm facts and rational conversation is how one gets through. I read irreversible harm and I know what it's like to be afraid but what I never see are solutions. This has consumed me for the last year. Thank you to anyone who reads and interacts!
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CoachCarrie · 12/10/2021 00:54
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