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Am I bisexual?

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Anon89393 · 17/06/2021 19:59

I wondered if I am bi-sexual for a while. I have a male partner and children with him.
I've always fantisied about being with another woman and wondered what it would be like.

Is like to make it clear I absolutely love my partner though and would love to marry him one day.

I've asked him if he would be okay if I was to try things with another woman and he doesn't have any objection to it. However I definitely couldn't do anything as a threesome, I'd have to do it alone.

I'm not a great socialiser, and I don't really have many friends. I've always got on better with men, so I'm not sure if it's just I want a female friend or more?

I am so confused, I also don't know how I approach it. Is there a site for woman to meet another woman but not really have a relationship?

I couldn't tell anyone else as my family are a bit against that kind of thing being quite religious!

So am I just missing out on female friendship or am I bisexual?

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gillianwalmsley · 17/06/2021 20:47
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Shelddd · 17/06/2021 20:53

Maybe... But why do you need another sexual partner?

If you were only attracted to men would you ask your partner if you could have sex with another man? What's the difference.

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gillianwalmsley · 17/06/2021 21:18

@Shelddd

Maybe... But why do you need another sexual partner?

If you were only attracted to men would you ask your partner if you could have sex with another man? What's the difference.

The op is clear, she says she has always fantasised about being with another woman - that is why she wants another sexual partner.

As regards the second bit, it is very different: possible risk of pregnancy (no contraceptive is 100% safe) also, her partner - if she discusses it with him sensitively and it sounds like she has already, has consented, probably because he doesn't feel 'threatened' and supports her desire to act on this long yearned for fantasy.

No, to ask for sex with another man would be very different, in my opinion.
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Anon89393 · 17/06/2021 22:05

Thanks, I've just taken a look, it's a bit scary Grin

I couldn't and wouldn't have sex with another man. My partner is being very supportive which I guess I'm quite lucky.

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Shelddd · 17/06/2021 23:14

@Anon89393

Thanks, I've just taken a look, it's a bit scary Grin

I couldn't and wouldn't have sex with another man. My partner is being very supportive which I guess I'm quite lucky.

Would you support him having sex with another man or woman? If not you're exploiting him and if roles were reversed and he wanted to have sex with multiple partners while insisting you don't everyone would say he is abusive.
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Branleuse · 17/06/2021 23:24

Hes playing with fire suggesting that. Maybe he thinks that lesbian fun is not going to be a threat to your heterosexual relationship?i wonder why?

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toastfairy · 30/05/2022 20:43

If you experience sexual attraction to both Men and Women yes you're Bisexual. This remains true if you don't act on your sexual attraction to women.

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Oestrogelsmuggler · 21/06/2022 20:39

If you do have a fling with another woman, be prepared for it to blow your relationship apart. Women are far more sexy and interesting than men. 😁

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germsandcoffee · 03/08/2022 14:24

I'm like you and sex with a female is very exciting x hope you get the opportunity

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MyAnacondaMight · 28/08/2022 09:18

Oestrogelsmuggler · 21/06/2022 20:39

If you do have a fling with another woman, be prepared for it to blow your relationship apart. Women are far more sexy and interesting than men. 😁

Ha, this. ^^ What do you think this is going to achieve? Scratch some sort of itch of curiosity? Or it might just ruin your marriage.

Feeld might be the best app for you to try. Be realistic though: a woman (married to a man) looking to “try things” with another woman is rarely an appealing prospect for other queer women. It gets kind of tedious being someone’s experiment.

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PlumPudd · 22/09/2022 11:35

Why do so many men whose partners post on here seem to have no issue with their wife sleeping with another woman, but would never countenance them sleeping with another man.

Do these men think women are lesser / not a real sexual or romantic prospect / or that sex / love between two women is just a porn category and is somehow less real or powerful than the irresistible lure of a man?!?

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AgnestaVipers · 22/09/2022 19:23

Yep. Exactly that.

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Soluckytobeme · 24/10/2022 15:31

Hi,
I have recently asked the same question. When I was younger I kissed a couple of girls,and I really got some feelings that at the time I didn't understand. I thought it was because the relationship I was in(with a man)was terrible.so I thought this was just abit of excitement.i split with him.
I've been with my partner 8 years now,and we have children together. I've always told him I find women attractive,although I wouldn't act on it, because I'm with him. If I'm with you,I'm with you,totally monogamous.
However,the other day, we had a very deep conversation,and he said to me, you need to stop fighting with yourself. You find women attractive you've always said that. I think it's time you accept yourself, as I have accepted and love you.
I am lucky, in that he's very supportive and I can't tell my family. And I hate labels of all kinds. I still don't want to label myself to the world,it doesn't make a difference to my relationship now, but it's true. The realisation is,I'm bisexual, because I find both men and women sexually attractive. And I hope I'm with my partner all my life,i love him like crazy. But we don't know what the future holds. If we got split up, I can't say I wouldn't get with a woman.
If the feelings there,and you can fantasise about the same sex,and feel turned on by them, I think that's enough to use the term.

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