15 year old

[Reallyhadenough]

My son tried getting a tattle tale war against his sister ( son is 17, daughter is 15) he told me she had a secret and the full story..but asked/ begged me to say nothing (son lies lots) as he would get it trouble! So..right or wrong I asked my daughter if she wanted to talk....(she did want to talk) and has had a girlfriend for 4 months. I'm over the moon for her and she knows now. She has never kissed or liked a boy, but said she is bisexual. I'm wondering if anyone can explain this? I've never kissed or liked a woman but I wouldn't say I am bisexual

It could just be that she is not throwing her hat in the lesbian ring just yet, or more likely that she knows she on some level finds males attractive sexually just hasn't met one she likes.

My avowedly lesbian daughter says she's never looked at a boy and knows she is not bisexual.

On the one hand, I don't think labels are especially important, so if she feels she is bisexual at the moment, and later feels lesbian or gay is more fitting label, then no problem at all.

On the other hand, she may well be self-aware enough to sense that she has the potential to be attracted to boys as well as girls, even if she's not had a particular attraction to one boy yet. As a bisexual person, I think I had a sense of that potential long before I'd actually had meaningful crushes on or relationships with both men and women.

Either way, your being open and positive about her current relationship, and future developing sense of identity and self will be a real help as she grows more fully into the person she is. All the best to her!