It’s complicated

[Itsme1307]

Hi;
So, I’m a 37 year old gay single Mama of 2 boys. They’re 9 and 6 and I’m desperate for another child. My youngest sons Dad (we’re best friends) agreed that he’d love another baby, we co parent so well. The only thing is, last time I hadn’t come out and we had a very drunk moment. My son is the result. I don’t drink anymore and I’ve been out for 5 years now. The thoughts of doing that makes me feel nauseous and really uncomfortable. I don’t think my body would relax enough to let it happen. However, he said unless there are fertility issues he doesn’t see why we have to go the iui route. But I just don’t think he understands how big of a deal it is tbh. It’s terrifying and I squirm at the idea. But I’m so desperate for one more child. My kids even ask me for another brother or sister. And he is a wonderful father, like just amazing. Despite us living an hour away, if there’s anything needed for the boys ( he treats my eldest like his own, as his father is a waste of space), he’s here for them any time. We even take trips away every year. As a now, out and very proud woman. I don’t know what to do.

Turkey baster? Im serious, he ejaculates in another room, gives it to you and you insert it.

if this man doesn't understand that having an unwanted penis in your vagina is not an acceptable means to any desirable outcome then he isn't a good dad. being pressured into accepting an unwanted penis in your vagina is rape.

Turkey baster or laboratory or no dc3.

Stick to your guns. You don’t have to have sex with someone just because you have before, even if you want to coparent with them. Is he full on refusing to try AI, or just not understanding why you want to do it that way?