Same sex ivf

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Hi my partner and I are looking to try for a baby. Was just wondering if there were any scottish mums in this forum that would be willing to give us and advice or information about the criteria, procedure etc thanks

Hi there.
We heard on Easter Saturday that my (lesbian) partner is pregnant via first round IVF. It is exciting but the next 3 weeks we are told are critical. She is 40yo!
Our main learning to share are:

1. Choose an IVF clinic nearest to you. To date we or she has attended at least 14 times!
2. We found the decision to pay for either one or three IVF treatments at the start difficult. We chose just the one time treatment, mainly because the treatment is tough going; so many appointments so many vaginal entry scans etc. My partner is extremely healthy, good to low weight, takes lot exercise, doesn’t drink(latterly)/smoke/excellent diet. We hoped this would help despite age. We have found out that there are a lot of additional costs, in our case we had to freeze the egg as uterus lining not thick enough on the extraction day. This also means cost of more drugs, more scans etc!
3. We decided to buy sperm so that it was well checked & donor had had previous success.

One piece of learning that we have not read anywhere is that having the eggs frozen and taking a month or two to recover from this operation worked out well for us. I have read that frozen eggs have a better success rate than same day IVF. I hope this helps. Do ask any Qs.

BTW we are in South East England, but thought this would help.

Thanks for your reply nickylissa and congratulations I hope all goes well. I will be 40 this year so it's something I am worried about. Our plan is to use my partners eggs and I will carry. How long did the whole process take? Xx

Thank you.
Re the procedure duration: everyone will be different. We both work f/t and we learnt that it was better to not rush between appointments, undertake loads of research as the clinic will give you very little info. They ask you to make decisions along the way which you cannot make without your own research.
We started with the private IVF clinic that we finally used after one false start as it was too far away, in August last year. Prior to that we wasted two years within NHS as we were hoping to get one free IVF available at the time. This did not materialise due to mis information & considerable incompetence in progressing appointments on there part. We quickly learnt that you have to own the process yourself, even within private sector.
We read in research from States that over 35 yo have better success by implanting a previously frozen embryo. We were asked if we wanted fresh or frozen & did not know answer at the time. Fortunately, as my partners uterus lining not thick enough for fresh transfer it was frozen & implanted following month. We think this has helped so far.