First time post, I'm a 38 year old Lesbian. I've been with my wife for over a decade. About 8 years ago, we made a decision not to have children, however our lives have changed and I started having a strong desire for a child (my younger sister has 2 children and getting to know them, has changed my perspective). After a couple of months of talking it through, my partner (same age) is also excited expanding the family.
So here are the complications, I'm old (ish). I've never been pregnant (or even had a scare) because I've never dated or slept with men. I have booked an appointment at a local fertility clinic to have a uterus and ovary scan. I've had some issues with reproductive health (my periods aren't regular -sometimes they come after 7 weeks, sometimes 3). And quite a few of the women in my family have PCOS. My partner has exceptionally regular cycles, but is very clear she does not want to be pregnant, but would be happy for her eggs to be used if that is an issue for me.
Second issue is sperm. One of my good friends suggested that we should ask one of our gay male friends to see if they would like to co-parent (as this may be a rare opportunity to become a bio- parent). I can see the advantages of this, the child will know their bio father. I also see the down side that more parents could be a recipe for disagreements. Anyone have any experience of this?
This must all seem like a waffling post! I'm excited by also scared to travel down this road. I'm a natural pessimist, so I constantly worry about the worst case scenario, but I am trying to be positive and hopeful.
Thinking of expanding our family
Bryterlayter1 · 02/10/2019 14:03
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.