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I think I'm Bi. Really confused

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Sorryfofty · 16/09/2019 18:38

Always been with men but always found women attractive too. I've had crushes on other women before but never acted on it. I haven't even kissed a girl but I know I've wanted to before. I've begun speaking to a women who a vaguely know. She said she's Bi but has more attraction to women. She seems really nice but I'm nervous because I've never explored this part of me before and I think in confused but I don't know. I've always had attraction to women like I say. Has anyone in their 30s ever just one day thought I like women more? Is this common?

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inspector1983 · 16/09/2019 21:23

Yeah I been feeling like this lately and I'm 35

joystir59 · 16/09/2019 21:28

I came out as a lesbian in my late 30s, having been in a straight marriage for 16 years prior.

Sorryfofty · 16/09/2019 22:42

I don't think I'm lesbian as I'm still really attracted to men too but I'm becoming increasingly more attracted to women. In more of a romantic way too hot just sexual. I think I've always wanted to pursue something with a women but held back as I was worried about what people with think. As I've got old though I've become more secure in myself. I don't know I just have so many emotions going on right now xx

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OneHanded · 16/09/2019 22:44

Hi I’m only 25 but how you describe yourself is how i would to and I consider myself bi and date men and women. I’ve grown up not knowing if I will have a wife or husband one day and on talking to someone else who is bi I realised that is it, and started dating women!

OneHanded · 16/09/2019 22:45

Too* dammit 🤦🏼‍♀️

NeverSayFreelance · 17/09/2019 07:56

I'm bisexual, and deep down I always knew that - but sexuality is fluid and you will find that you are sometimes more attracted to one gender over the other. In fact, it can change daily! I'm with my male DP now so not looking for anyone else, but my I'm still more attracted to women. Just relax and let your feelings come naturally. It will all work out. Thanks

Sorryfofty · 17/09/2019 08:36

Thank you. Yes I think I've always known I've been attracted to women deep down but it's never really surfaced as I've been relationships with men. I agree really fluid as atm in more attracted to women than men. I just feel nervous speaking to this women as I've never done this before but it does feel natural so I'm going to go with it :)

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Scarlett555 · 17/09/2019 08:42

Just go with it! Yolo!

I only dated men until I kissed a woman aged 27. Haven't looked at a man since

OneHanded · 17/09/2019 21:28

Third the fluidity and can change daily!

Chewysmum · 28/10/2019 21:22

I say if it feels good then go with it, I always regret not expressing that part of myself when I was younger. I did have a short relationship with a woman and a few other experiences but my proper relationships were with men simply because they were the ones I happened to end up with. I don't socialise much so I've never had the opportunity to meet women (certainly not ones that I knew would be interested in other women). Now I fear that it's too late so if I were you I'd absolutely do whatever makes you happy right now, live for the moment as they say, if after trying it you decide its not for you then at least you won't always be wondering "what if"
Good luck x

hariboismydrug · 30/10/2019 21:54

I've always known I was bi but didn't act on it until my early forties.
You only live once so go for it .

Namechangedforthis60 · 30/10/2019 22:02

I was with my ex husband from 15-28 and always knew I was bisexual. Since he and I split up I’ve actually only been with women. I rarely find men attractive now but still class myself as bi rather than lesbian as I spent such a large portion of my life with a man. Life is too short to not explore yourself OP. If you go on dates with a woman and find it’s not for you then it’s fine, but nothing ventured nothing gained! The wondering is always worse than the reality! Go for it!

Kablam · 22/02/2020 05:44

Message from a queer! Sounds like you are a textbook bisexual :)
go for it and do what makes you happy :)

JohnHunter84 · 02/09/2020 18:28

Hey, it's okay in our time. Don't worry about it

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