having a relationship & have a child

[bayangel]

My girlfriend & I have been together for 2yrs & I have a son who's newly 6yrs old. Before me she'd never dated anyone with a child, has never wanted children. Recently we've having problems, she struggle with the repetiveness of a child, them not remember to do the smallest little things i.e wash his hand after the loo! Also we've lost each other, we dont have couple time that much or sex, we've become to comfortable & just "living" together, theres no "us" time anymore. Alot of that this our fault not my son's, but sometimes I want to be "ME" not just a mum, I want to be her girlfriend again & to have a life asides from being "just" a mum!!!! I love my son every much & he know he's loved. He's happy, good kid & my girlfriend love him too in her way. I'm just sad & tied of being in the middle, I love her & she love me very much, it's just hard knowing what to do for the best!!!

well i'm not to sure of how it is at home but fro what you have said i feel you are feeling pressured to just want to be with her and to not have the pressures of parenthood too but the thing is you have been together 2 yrs she knew the situation but why the problems now

could you of both just genuinly grown apart or could someone have your son for a weekend and you can go away and see if you do still have something there effort needs to be made by both people and its not your sons fault and you shouldn't feel guilty that you dont get to do certain things as you are a mum and that is always first maybe you are just friends now and need to move on

In the end, your child should definitely come first. I can understand your desire for a relationship and I'm sure that your relationship has a lot of good qualities and perhaps a weekend away is a good idea. However, I have to agree with bubblagirl in that she always knew about the situation and that this probably has to do with other reasons, or perhaps you're only just beginning to notice this.

As someone who comes from a divorced family, I always struggled with my father's new relationships and I can only imagine that, if your girlfriend isn't that interested in a child, your son probably knows it.

You shouldn't have to be a middle man, but in the end, your girlfriend also shouldn't be putting you in that position. You have a child, did she think he would suddenly go away??