My dd is 21 and I have thought for a few years now that she might be gay but didn't ask, just thought she will tell me if/when she wants to. In the meantime dh and I have always made it clear through our general talk and behaviour that we have no prejudice towards anyone and would have no concerns if any of our children were gay, etc.
Some gay friends of mine sometimes post on fb supporting gay rights, etc. and I occasionally 'like' their posts. During gay pride week I changed my profile pic to a temporary rainbow frame which I thought showed support for gay rights.
A few weeks ago, my dd did in fact tell dh and I that she's gay and obviously we had a chat about it and all is well. She hasn't told her grandparents but says we can if we want because she doesn't want to have to have the 'I'm gay' conversation with everyone. She told her brothers.
Yesterday all of us except dd were at the grandparents house for lunch and ds's girlfriend, who knows that dd is gay, was looking through my facebook page. She suddenly held up the gay pride profile pic and said 'Why did you do that on your profile, that's weird'.
Because we were in front of gps who did not yet know, I didn't want to blurt it out so I said
Me 'Why not, it was a temporary picture for gay pride week'
Her 'Well that's just weird'
Me 'Why is it weird? You don't have to be gay to support gay pride. Just like you don't have to have cancer to support cancer research'.
For some reason, the way she confronted me like that upset me. I don't know why. I asked ds later for his opinion and he said it doesn't show support, it's more like being an advocate.
I said I can put whatever I want on my picture, she was rude to confront me like that and isn't it obvious that I'm trying to support dd anyway. He agrees with me.
Anyway, sorry for long post. What I want to know is, did I make a faux pas. Is it really not acceptable to publicly support gay pride in this way if you're not gay or not an advocate? 