Madly in love with another woman - too soon to know I want her?

[Snowglie]

Hi there,

I am so lucky to have found myself truly madly deeply in love with another woman. She is 10 years older than me. I have been divorced for around a year and am now settling in my own house with two primary aged DC.

The feelings I have for her are incredible. I never knew life could be this good with a partner - don't get me wrong, it's not all plain sailing and we challenge each other in our thoughts and feelings, but it's still just GREAT!

I've never been one for playing the field or multiple partners, but there wasn't much of a gap between leaving ex husband and falling for her.

Although it FEELS just right, I need to hear some rational thoughts from unbiased outsiders.

We are not "out" to many people. Currently it's only her family (who think we're a great couple), three of my best friends and a few of her friends. We work in the same field (although not same place) so our paths cross frequently and there are many shared acquaintances - none of these yet know. I've never before crossed work and personal life.

My DC know her as a really good friend and ask when we will see her again - she is really great with them, kind, clear, firm and boundaried.

Do we just go with it? I love her!

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Well, it's very hard to know if it's too soon when you haven't actually said how soon it is!

You missed that out. Obviously it's less than a year since you divorced a year ago, but what - two weeks? ten months?

Bottom line is that if it feels right you should go with it, but you should also think about what you wish you'd done differently in your previous relationship so you can guard against that.

[60sname]

Haven't you posted this before?

If all is going well, why not just go with it as you say?