Hiding photos from my partners daughters friends?

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Can someone please tell me if I'm wrong in not wanting to take down a framed wedding picture with my partners flowers and my button hole that's been freeze dried for the sake of my partner 13yr old daughter to hide our relationship from her friends in case she gets bullied?

No. Why would she be friends with people who have the potential to bully her?

Why does she think she'll be bullied?

This is causing me so much grief and upset? I'm being made to feel I'm wrong in not wanting it taken down and that im ok with the fact she may be get bullied. I would do anything to protect her but I feel our home should be just that and if she doesn't want people to see it then surely they are not worth her own friendship. I'm just so torn, so thank you vet much for your quick response xx

She thinks she will be bullied for mine and her mother relationship! Xx

But if people are visiting the house so as to see the photograph, how does she explain who lives there?

No, that is not ok. I understand she's at a difficult age but this is a life lesson she must learn. It's tricky at that age but she needs to find decent friends.

Her friends will discover you 2 are in a relationship surely. Hiding that picture will not affect that. Unless you're expected to hide away too??

13 year olds would rather eat ground glass than not conform (from Nutureshock by Po Bronson). It must really hurt to have her want to hide and lie about you. Tell her about it, help her understand the bigger picture of what she is doing and saying. You could take her to events where she can meet other kids with lgbt parents.

This could also indicate that the school has a problem with homophobic bullying, which you can challenge. Ask them what they are doing to meet their equalities objectives as far as homophobia is concerned.

Sorry, that sounds really difficult. Is this partly a step parent issue? Have you been a part of her life for a long time? Was her mum together with her dad? and if so does she remember?

Her mum should be talking to her about this. Is her mum trying to make her understand? Are you and your partner 100% in agreement here, or is your partner being unclear with her daughter?