Bisexual mums

[Monitors]

Hi there
Not sure if this is the right place.
Was wondering if there were any other mums in my situation, living with their husbands and thinking about other women. I've had some romantic relationships in the past with women and chose to marry and have kids but am bisexual and wanted to share it somehow with like minded mums..

i'm around and pretty lonely with this issue still..don't have a good answer for you :-)

Hey anyone still around? X

I feel for you, when I was in uni a flatmate kept pushing me for a threesome. I didn't indulge her, but it put the idea in my head. I would walk past a woman on the street and think "nice top" or whatever, and then catch myself thinking about her underwear...which was when I started fantasising about women when I played with myself.
Anyway I kept it to myself, met my now DH in my final year. Last summer, I went on a holiday with my best friend, just as I discovered I was pregnant. She's always been a bit upfront, we got onto DH's bits and she asked whether it was more like a banana or a cucumber...which was doing strange things to me! Anyway we ended up on the bed, not with each other just alone. We've done that a few times since, and on the phone to each other. Her DH is aware and is cool (and blissfully discreet) but mine isn't. I'm ashamed and confused and I want to take things further but don't dare. Think about it a lot and every time I'm intimate with DH

Monitors I share some of your feelings and circumstances. I've been with my husband faithfully for nearly 20 years and have enduring love and affection as well as occasional passion for him (two kids and jobs make for a continuous and very unerotic state of fatigue!). I was bi-curious before that is to say around the age of 20, but lacked confidence to pursue it too far so lack the experience you have. I've strangely only just come out to myself as bisexual and realised that despite having many LGBT persons among intimate family and friends I have subjected myself to decades of bi-erasure probably by mistaking my inclination as a threat to monogamy and dismissing my early experiences as irrelevant experiments. Baffling but there it is! I'm still mulling over all this in private but I'm interested in finding others to talk to.

I'm in the same situation. Married 10 years, 2 dc. I used to have flings with both men and women before settling down with dh. I feel like I put all of those feelings for women into a box and left them there for years. I'm in Ireland and since the marriage equality thing last week it feels like a lid has lifted of the box. I found myself crying while sitting at home with dh and dc seeing all of these people out celebrating. I wanted to be there too. I remembered how I was part of that world and so have been struggling these past few days. Until then while I did think of women I mainly tried to squash any thoughts as I don't want to be unfaithful. It is a stupid situation, having to choose if you are bi. Glad I've found this thread. Everyone I know now seems so very heterosexual!

am 36 married and bi need talk to people same boat as me

Hi Pippa,this a zombie thread (very old )

Start a new one on this topic as more posters will see it & respond.

im in exactly the same situation and its very confusing.

what is a zombie thread????sorry!