can I ask your advise ?

[BoxHillBessy]

I'm not sure if this should be here or in relationships.I have fallen in love with a woman, we are both mid fourties, both have children although mine is grown up. I have kissed a woman once before over twenty years ago and liked it, she has had no relationship with females.
Over this last year, we have gone from me working for her , to being friends until two weeks ago she mentioned she had feelings for me, I have been feeling muddled about her for the last couple of months, missing her when I'm not with her and feeling right when I am. She has now said today she feels herself falling in love with me.
So does this happen, can someone change from being only interested in men to falling head over heels for a woman?
We are stuck, she does not want to break up her family and neither do I , we are both feeling like teenagers. We have not kissed and are both now trying to keep this under control and can neither seeaway forward. I think I'm going to only be able to see her with her family from now on. It's not fair any other way.
So I'm sitting here crying because I've never felt something so all encompassing, so right and yet it cannot be. Sorry just needed to vent. And if you are reading this (because I know you MN too) you only have to ask and I will come.

Yes it can happen as many women (and men) can testify.

In terms of where you go from here only you can make that decision but I did have a couple of thoughts.

On the one hand it could be the beginning of the most beautiful, fulfilling and connected relationship between the two of you and I'd like to think it was, however, it could be that she represents something you are looking for (even if you're not aware of it). Falling for someone different from those you've fallen for before can be very seductive.

Good luck

Thank you, we are trying to behave as normal, but I can't seem to concentrate on anything at the moment and neither it seems can she All I can think of is her. I have ordered the living two lives book- I'm hoping that may have some details of other peoples experiences and how they have got through this. She says she wants to be with me but can't destroy her family for the sake of her feelings. For both of us it's all or nothing, neither wishes to have an affair.