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Married woman realising that she is a lesbian- support group or friends needed

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lavendervision · 05/05/2012 22:37

I am married in an heterosexual realtionship (not active for a long time). For years I have been pushing aside my feelings for women and I am now in a position where I cannot ignore it anymore. I seem to fall in love endlessly, I have to work hard at hidding it and not doing anything about it...then I am left to deal with the heartbreak. I feel a bit like the only gay in the village and would like to meet other mums in my situation. My husband does not know about it, we spoke about separting but he said it would be an open war if I choose to leave, so for now my best option is to stay.
Any support group or places in Lancashire/ merseyside where I can find other mums like me?

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Corkyandviolet · 26/05/2013 22:54

Note to Lavendervision - apologies on behalf of all us London girls, we've only gone and bloody hijacked your thread! I really hope you meet like-minded people soon, and don't have to deal with the loneliness and secrecy any longer. I wish you well, good luck to you. X

notmebabe · 02/06/2013 07:48

Hi, same story here...43, 2 kids (12 & 8), married for 15 years and together for 23 years. I live in Newcastle. Have been to couples counselling and individual therapy. My husband is a very loving, generous man....but I am sexually attracted to women and have been for a very, very long time. We seem to be stuck, unable to change our situation as we want it to work, but it just doesn't sexually.

I also will check out the websites. I discovered Ask Joanne a few years ago, but didn't find it particularly useful...most users are American The book was good though.

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