is it possible to use known donor sperm through a clinic?

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OK - I've been on here loads of times . We have a DD of 23 months, conceived using a known donor. He had said that he couldn't donate again because of his partner, but after a long and complex set of conversations he seems to have changed his mind . Last time we did it DIY and it took about 7 goes (one mmc :( and a couple of off-timings). But DP is now nearly 3 years older and because of logistics (KD is in the UK, we are not, much harder to travel at short notice with a toddler etc) we want to use KD's sperm through a clinic. He will be happy to waive parental responsiblity, but does anyone know if this is possible - for him to donate at a clinic in the UK and then ship his sperm to our clinic here in Ireland?

any help very gratefully received

my situation is pretty similar to that which lesbian couples face in some ways - in terms of the dilemmas about siblings, same fathers/different, matching their circumstances or making them different enough that one doesn't feel like the weird one or the one who missed out. maybe i should look at lesbian forums or sites to help me think this through.

thanks. reading the account of the child of an anonymous donor has definitely ruled out total anonymity. think it's good we disclose here.

right. bookmarked site and will look at it more tomorrow.

it's more my concerns about my son and the impact on him at this point. just mulling.

thanks for help.

Have you tried prideangel.com, they have a lot of information for people using or looking for know donor sperm. They also have AI kits which my friends recently used and got pregnant! They said it was the combination of feeling relaxed within their own home, enjoying the moment (so to say), and using the kit which had everything they needed - Well expect for the sperm!
Good Luck

thanks Erika for the suggestion; we've gone back to our original approach - home AI using fresh sperm from the donor who gave us our DD (who is mostly lovely but in the midst of 2 year old, post xmas stropping, which makes me about no. 2...almost)

thanks! sometimes I think we are nuts - but there's a strong possibility it won't work in which case we will be irrationally and indignantly disappointed

Hi been reading your posts. you said you got pregnant through AI previously? What is putting you off trying that option again? It is obviously the cheaper option, also i know it is basic stuff but are you sure you have the right ovulation date. Have a look at website called pride angel it is predomantley for lesbian/gay people trying to get pregnant but has advice on ovulation and AI kits etc may be of some help? Good luck anyway xx

hi wrighty - thanks. Well, initially our KD didn't want to donate, so that left us only with the clinic route. Then he decided he would, and we thought that it might just be easier all round (DD almost 2, he lives abroad) plus facilitating any additional help we might need. But it's not possible, so going back to the tried and tested - and yes, we are more than familiar with the need for the right ovulation date and the ways of ascertaining same (in fact you need O -1/-2 rather than ovulation day itself). But thanks for the thought - we're hoping that it won't take too long, whilst knowing that it might IYSWIM

Best of luck xx

thanks - will hopefully be on here in about a year's time moaning about how impossible everything is with 2!! fingers crossed, anyway